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Tomorrow’s dream

magicroom
magicroom

Unpleasant thoughts and they just loop and loop over and over again I’ve been writing about it and I know they they are there now but they always show up at this time I think because I’m occupiedI’ve noticed now after one week writing that my worry starts usually right before I awake and every time I awake during sleep I start feeling surreal If I wake up to go get water or use the bathroom I usually don’t worry kind of like I know I got to go get water or go to the bathroom stops the thoughts I think because I’m occupied Knowing I got to do something But if I just wake up right before I wake up these real strong thoughts I don’t know from  where they come they  just come I keep thinking of me and I’ve noticed they’re always the same ones what if my mom passed what if I can’t pay my rent what if my car breaks down and I can’t get to work what if in 10 years from now I’m homeless what if what if what if very Unpleasant thoughts and they just loop and loop over and over again I’ve been writing about it and I know they were there but they always show up at this time For no reason I don’t call upon them they just come And then it happens I notice I’m stuck I can’t get out of the fight then I get out of it it’s so weird man I wish all this would stop it feels like tomorrow’s a dream

Community LeaderMid
Mid
Keep writing it out.
malibumark
malibumark
Yes, keep writing and keep moving forward!
whiteknuckles
whiteknuckles
I go through the same issues if I can sleep more than 5 hours a night and not wake up panicking it’s a blue moon.
After going through a class or two to manage this it was presented as “catastraphizing” everything looks bleak, or a tiger is in the room and you are in grave danger. These thoughts are just that thoughts and can be managed.
If your interested in learning more about this I would recommend a class on CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy. It presents tools to combat some of these issues
Be well
magicroom
magicroom
Wow nice yes. You hit the nail on the head that’s exactly what I’m going through so catastrophize Ing let me look into that thank you so much White knuckles so is this a form of anxiety also catastrophize Ing
arfie
arfie
A suggestion I took from a fellow what-iffer was to acknowledge that a positive outcome is as possible as a negative outcome. This brother-in-healing suggested I write out my what-if questions then give two responses, one, my usual negative. Two, a potential positive.

What if I am homeless in 10 years?

Neg: I will be cold, alone, sickly and unloved.

Pos: The absence of material belongings will free me to find places I never would have found carrying a suburban paradise on my back.

This exercise doesn't stop the intrusive thoughts, all by its lonesome, but it puts a new spin into the loops.

But that is me. . .

Gentle support while you sort your own.
magicroom
magicroom
Ok arfire nice The part that hurts the most is all this hasn’t happened yet and yes you’re right I thought about what you said also I kind a know what I have to do but when I’m in the thoughts it’s like I don’t know what to do but I know I’ll eventually have to keep moving forward if I do end up homeless all right thank you for the positive feedback. This same survival Mechanism anxiety is a trip
arfie
arfie
It would be lovely if I could change my psychoticks with a single wave of a magic wand and/or pill bottle, butttttttaaaaa. . . Well, just it all! ! !

For what it's worth
I view my own anxiety as the alarm which alerts the survival mechanisms to prepare for action. Like most alarm systems, it monitors more than it evaluates. A literal smoke alarm will go off for burnt toast as readily as it goes off for a house fire. A burglar alarm will warn you of a stray cat as enthusiastically as armed home invaders.

Now to find that damned reset button between my ears. . .
Those pesky details. . .
Italianmomma4ever
Italianmomma4ever
Keep the pen flowing. You got this.
doggy123
doggy123
yeah, if you're homeless, at least there will be plenty of other ppl to relate too. sometimes I think I relate better to homeless ppl anyway, so maybe I should just be one. at least there are resources to help, like soup kitchens and food banks. if you have a car or van to sleep in then you'd be better off. you could also get a storage unit and live there. sure, it's illegal, but only if they find out. and even if they do, some wouldn't care.
magicroom
magicroom
Ha nice doggy123 there is hope thanks
hyperpgal
hyperpgal
oof--I have gone through that--those horrible what ifs..they slip in at night because you have no other distraction--so the evil anxiety monster goes to work--winding you up....I found it was better to just get a distraction--read or watch some silly cat videos, watch a calm tv show until you forget what it was you were going on about and then just go back to sleep--I figured losing a few hrs of sleep to cat videos was healthier than losing a few hrs to worrying and keeping my adrenaline racing....
magicroom
magicroom
Yes hyperpgal That’s a perfect way to put it the evil anxiety monster love it
Ash122
Ash122
Cat videos are a godsend,,,,, :)
hyperpgal
hyperpgal
my favorite cats--kittisaurus on youtube LULU is the ca-utest cat on the planet.
Divad1111
Divad1111
I find that if I write or draw what’s happening while it’s happening that I can deal with it. Better on paper then in head. Try writing a list of people and places you can call with that me available on it . So when you wake up you see it and don’t feel alone and have a plan to work through the anxiety
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