Hi Cam. I'm Sarah Jane. I get those same feelings about the future and lots of things scare me. But I try to not worry about things like losing my parents because I hope I will be a lot older and I might have my own children by then. But actually I'm desperate to grow up and stop being so childish like I am now but it terrifies me that I won't ever do that.

Hi Cam, I used to have similar anxiety. But there comes a point where you are ready to grow up and leave and live your own and make decisions for you! I was TERRIFIED going to college and being in my own. But after I left i never went home. Once you live on your own, you want just that. You begin to cherish the time spent with family and they are always there even through distance. I’m sorry there isn’t really a solution... I feel like once you do it, you’ll realize it’s okay

Hello Cam. Welcome to DS. I suggestion I will make here is that if you want us to remember to call you, "Cam" in the future, end all your posts with that name. There are days I need to check my driver's license to remember my own name.

The fact that these feelings are quite natural doesn't make them any easier to deal with. My advice is to keep sharing here while you are looking for other sources of support to supplement the sharing here. The massive changes and trials of adult life are easier when shared as they come up. It takes a village to live a healthy life. With multiple sources of support, it is easier to remain assured that help will always be available when you need it.

Welcome aboard. Gentle support while you challenge the transition. Hope you find stabilizing companionship here.

Cam, crap, I am 60 and terrified. tomm I venture out on my own..its scary. Don't think it's an age thing ! Stay with this site. Today will be first day to start my new life. Should be excited, I feel like I am going to vomit. Send me good vibes cam, and I will to you also.

You might want to see a therapist for a short time if your anxiety is
Interfering too much with your life. Or talk to slightly older relatives,
friend, sisters of friends about growing up.

I am 57 and like Reneexxx000, I'm still working through this life.
All my family is gone.....I'm the end of the line. I've had to make friends my family which actually works great as this time I get to pick :P
I'm learning to have a healthy and good relationship with myself and I am selective about who I let in my life.
I have started looking at life as an adventure and have embraced change as it is inevitable.
You are quite young and by the time you graduate high school, you will have a little more life under your belt and peers and others to help you move onto the next stage of your life.

My piano teacher use to have a sign on her piano, "Life is like a piano, it depends on how you play it".
I have always loved that saying as I reflect on it often throughout my life.
We are in control of our lives. We can let fear rule our lives and make us miserable or we can take control (scary.....at first) and live life to it's fullest. Making life a buffet.....trying a little of everything. We need the polarity becuz if we didn't have things we didn't like, we wouldn't know what we like. We have to have hate in order to know what love is.......and the list goes on.
If you don't like something, you have the choice to make it better or do nothing and things will remain the same.
I found moving out of fear or not letting it rule my life has been one of my greatest accomplishments in life. It has led me to some of the greatest things and ppl in my life.....and it keeps getting better.
I'm not saying I don't get afraid any more.....I do......but I work on pushing through the fear and what I want is ALWAYS on the other side of it :)

Hang in there and relax. Do so deep breathing and find some up beat peeps to hang around and enjoy the rest of the summer.

First of all, distract your thought pattern.

Put yourself back "in the moment" to help get you moving.

Set up a night time routine to relax, calm, and be gentle. Keep a glass of water to stay hydrated. Focus on the good to help you be comfortable at night.

During the day, exercise your mind and body, talk with people, and be active.

Best wishes and welcome to the group.

Thank you all for your helpful comments, I hope there will be more. It is easy to do these things like talk to people and such in the day, but what about when you are alone in your room at night?

Lately, every night I have cried and felt extreme grief for my mom especially and she is already 55. She is in amazing health being a nutritionist and health specialist, but I cannot stand the thought of her ever dying.

For some reason every night now it feels like she is already dead, I'm afraid I'm already going through the pain of loss every night before it even happens. I end up staying up all night distracting myself, and I just don't know how to shake my anxiety and fear. Grief as well I should say.

Cam

Dearrest Cam, growing up can be quite daunting. But it can also give you a lot of good lessons that you can lean on through your life journey. Hey, do you think talking to your mum about some of the anxiety helps? Sometimes seeing things from her perspective might help you to grow a bit too. What do you think?

Girl I feel you 100%
It kind of weird that I saw your post...for a while now I’ve been having the same feeling. I’m 24 and often think about how much I don’t want to be an adult. We definitely can change it and one thing that has helped me is to only take one day at a time. I’ve learned that if you think about the future or too many things at once it’s very overwhelming. So I’ve been trying to only think as far as today for now. Hopefully one day these fears won’t be so big and I can think of the future. Hope this helps. I’m here if you ever want to talk❤️