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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Struggling with Work

winesar21
winesar21
I recently started a new position and am in my probationary period. It causes me so much anxiety, and I just dont' know what to do anymore. I wonder if people at work like me based off of if they say hi to me or not or if they say good morning. If I get a bad vibe from just one person I wonder if they all hate me and if something bad will happen. I feel like sometimes this shuts me off from people (i.e I become enclosed). A lot of people at work are buddy buddy and I'm just not used to that. All of this anxiety about if i'm doing good at work or not and if people like me is causing me to become an angry and depressed person. ALL I do is think about bad things that could happen. I have never been yelled at at work, but I'm not as close to my boss as everyone else. I HATE thinking about all the negative things that could happen.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Instead of focusing your thoughts in this pattern, use the thought process to improve your well-being. Check your appearance, good, check your balance, good, check your posture, good, check your smile, good.
Every time you notice the pattern, pause the thinking and check all these, and then go on.
At the end of each day, give yourself one positive review of something you did well that you notice.
Your workplace is full of different activities, just observe and work on your stuff, be positive, stay calm, and enjoy the adventure.
Best wishes.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Great advice! For all the negative things that could wrong the exact opposite is true too. The same percentage of WONDERFUL things could happen as well. It is all about perception. Your brain is anxious so you are tilting to negative things. Think of yourself as a balance scale and remember to re-frame those situations you see as negative with positive outcomes. Debunk those negative thoughts with positive ones. Do you use positive self talk? It helps me. I have a list of positive affirmations that I say to myself each morning (I am strong and healthy, I am positive, I am kind, etc.) Keep smiling. It is a fact that when you smile, your brain is also triggered that "all is well". There is some truth to the "fake it till you make it" comment. Remember that you are not your brain~you are much much more. Congratulations on your new position. It is normal to be nervous when starting a new venture. Give yourself a couple of weeks to settle into your new position and treat yourself for your success!
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