File the report if he stole your money. Stay away from men until you get yourself together. Know what you want and accept nothing less. Being without a man in your life isn’t the end of the world right now, especially if you don’t seem to pick ones that have good moral values. Work on yourself, see a therapist, find out why you pick losers. You are the only person who can make your own life better. What we want sometimes isn’t what we really need. Take the time you need to make you a better person for yourself.

Hello Fresh Start. Welcome to DS. Sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

I'm not romantic or fluffy enough to have much trouble with men, but I have a flight reflex which keeps me running away from my problems rather than standing my ground and dealing with them. The continual moving keeps me far more emotionally stagnant than I can easily recognize, much less admit.

That flight reflex is still with me, but I've gotten much better at standing my ground and building rather than continually starting over. I still run allot, but more and more, with much therapy support, I turn around and give ^it^ another try.

But that is me and every case is unique. . .

Gentle support while you find what works for you.
Welcome aboard. You are not alone.

Welcome to the anxiety board at DS.

You've taken the important first step in writing it out.

Take care of you first. That means putting your well-being first. You are responsible for what you say, do, act, react, and respond. You are NOT responsible for what others say, do, act, react, and respond. Their usual response will change and probably get worse before it improves. The difference is that you will be in a better balance.

Stop, pause, breathe, choice, until you are calm and clear headed and in balance in the moment.

When it comes to financial matters, file the report. His actions are criminal. They are intent to do wrong. Not your problem to fix, just report.

To move forward, you have to remind yourself that you and your well-being make a difference in your life first.

Thank you everyone for your advice i have a automatic flight person when things go crazy too guess it's bc my mom was the same way but I'm tired of running and struggling bc of it as far as men go I'm good I'm focusing on me n my kids n as far as the report goes I'm still hesitant bc he will make my life a living hell if they don't put him away for snitching on him he's crazy he's did 15yrs in prison n it shows his family is just as crazy and I just don't want to deal with the b.s. I am still going tho to show my evidence n write a statement just so that the incident is documented so that if he decides to harass me I have prior documentation bc I never did b4 for fear of the outcome I just want to be happy move on with my life and yes I will be seeking counseling bc I truly need it after 20yrs of abuse between him and my ex husband 10yrs each one beat me everyday the other cheated put me down n stole from me everyday just done with men

That flight instinct is a hard-wired part of our survival instinct. I am quite certain I would not have survived my childhood without it. So much so that by the time I reached adulthood, my flight instincts were way overdeveloped. "Hyper-vigilance" is the current catch phrase for ^it^ in PTSD circles. Hyper-vigilance is a mean psycho snot knot to untangle.

Keep venting, Fresh Start. Getting the particulars into words really can go a long way in untangling those psycho snot knots.