God did not bring this on you. It comes from within ourselves and our environment, our experiences, how we are reared, etc. But God does have a solution and He wants you to help yourself find it. He can’t do it for us because we wouldn’t learn what we need to. He does present things to help but often times we can’t see it or don’t want to do the work to make it happen. I was a long time finding this out for myself so you aren’t alone in your thinking. God always works in the natural, He will put solutions in front of you to grasp, but you have to reach out and take ahold of it. Research the work of Dr Claire Weekes on her acceptance method. I found it to be God sent. Take care.

Well said mtd and a good reminder that I have to work the solutions God sets before me

a prayer i have sent up more than once is, "dear god, can you please have less confidence in me this week?" it hasn't worked yet, but i'm nothing, if not stubborn.

my eldest foster daughter (now 6) suffers severe attachment disorder. her condition has improved mightily over the 2 1/2 years she has been with us, but she still often shuts down dramatically (an improvement over the hysterical reactions she suffered when she came here) when asked to do simple things, like reaching for a light switch in a dark room or approaching a social situation which is new to her.

as i gently encourage her to "grow those brave muscles," i often wonder if this is how god feels when i pray for her to have less confidence in me this week.

just wondering. . .

I hear you. I thought about myself this morning in the context of god. God the creator created all of us and some of us are part of a challenged group of his. We are meant to find solutions
just like the healthy ones do, our journeys may require a different kind of work and focus with our feelings and emotions. But each of us has to manage (challenged or unchallenged in the way that we are).
Just know that we're all in this here. You've come to a good place. Keep talking it out day by day - step by step...you'll find that your burdens may not get lighter but your way for dealing with them gets wiser for sure! Keep on keeping on!!

just to put things into a better perspective for you - look
at what you've done here! You've got an issue and your reaching out to find solutions!! That's a HUGE first step!! Well done you!!!
Keep on keeping on!

of course people get more than they can handle--that's the stupidest cliche.

i don't think its what God gives you ...we have free will and we cause a lot of our own issues. but there is always help if we ask for it. but many people won't seek help...or they wont work for it. you can't blame God for that.

Yeah I personally don’t prescribe to these sort of cliched description of what god does or doesn’t do, and why. I mean thinking about god like some puppet master who hands out hardship to those who can take it… that’s a human made construct to try to make sense of life’s hardships. It’s also serves to remove all personal accountability.

I too believe in free will. Things happen to people. If you are lucky to live long enough, it’s guaranteed you will experience some hardship. It has nothing to do with god’s will. We always have choices how we handle things or move through hardship. May not be the choices we want but choices none the less.