Hang in there please. I am experiencing severe anxiety right now too. You are not alone. God has a purpose and a plan for you. Keep fighting and cling to God. He is the only one who can help. You will make it!

I'm sorry it is so hard for you right now. It sounds like you are in a very dark place right now. Who do you have to live for? You. You are the most important person in your life and you deserve to live.

When I was suicidal many years ago the suicide prevention hotline had commercials on TV that said "It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem". It is true. You may not actually be suicidal right now but please keep this saying in mind anyway because everything is temporary - even our time here on this planet so why rush getting off of it?

Please know you have choices. You can leave your wrecked marriage. You can get another job. You can go to another Dr. to see what can be done for your disc prolapse. There are always choices.

Please hang in there.

Estranged, having been in a similar situation, I always found strength in helping others. After my parents "divorced" me, my husband died and my children left to pursue their own lives I volunteered in soup kitchens, sometimes just cooking, and other times, serving the meals to those who truly had nothing. I volunteered in schools to help children learn to read. I also helped with elders, who had no one to visit for Christmas or any other time of year. The experiences were rewarding and kept my mind off myself and my own troubles. When I thought about what I had seen, I found i had learned of another culture, that of poverty. I also realized that I am not alone as I come to grips with being poor.


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achingmommy, I would send you a private message on this, but you are not open to it.


People who do not explicitly designate themselves as theists, may not be. And if one is not a theist your post is extremely annoying and destructive. Keep your delusions to yourself.

I'm confused by your post loneralone

I'm with loneralone on this one. I appreciate that for some people religion can be a great source of comfort, and that achingmommy's post was no doubt kindly meant. Many of us, however, don't share these beliefs and telling someone who has asked for a reason to live that God is the only one who can help may not provide the comfort it was intended to provide.

estranged78, yes you can get through this. I was in a very destructive relationship for a while, and I also recently lost two Grandparents and my Dad within the space of three years. I have been through a period of intense anxiety, but I'm coming out the other side of it now. The solution to these issues lies within you, and there are plenty of people who can support you in your efforts, both on forums like this and in your local community. It sounds to me like you should try and speak to a professional in the first instance who could help you make a plan to deal with the issues you are facing.

Please don't give up or lose heart, you can get better.

Everyone, please keep in mind the rules of the road for writing your thoughts.

It is acceptable to agree to disagree, and to be positive in framing your reply. Daily Strength is a diverse community open to everyone.

Having checked this thread, and noticing that someone wants to send someone else a private message over this thread, please remember that we are able to disagree in positive ways.

Help is what is asked for, not judgement. Help is positive, and for this, live for yourself. You are valuable, just as you are, right now.

Having anxiety gives us a pattern of certain thoughts that can spiral into a challenging position. That same spiral can go outwards, and you can touch someone else with hope, which in turn helps you heal as well.

Best wishes, you are not alone. The circle of life includes death. Like the seasons, spring brings birth, summer, growth and blooming and fall brings back to the roots, and winter, sleep and rest.

Dear friends ,Thanks a ton every one for your positive responses ..
i have religious beliefs, got to work on it and build up my spiritual dimensions
symptom wise am experiencing panic attacks , negative thinking , insomnia , lack of interest feel slothy & jaded..it goes on
met a professional , who has started me on mirtazapine 15mg right away , i was taking xanax for a while to combat my situational stress.
got to open up and cry out for help with my pals and the forum of course..
got to learn some relaxation exercises and follow them
lonliness bothers me a lot , but am not alone , you guys out there and have probably faced a bigger chunk of prob
any experience with mirt or xanax .. ? should i consider CBT also?
i am new to the forum please help me connect..

I have found CBT to be very helpful as it helped me to change my negative thinking into positive thinking which, in turn, helped me in all aspects of my life. It took me a while to make all the changes necessary but it was worth all the effort and the time it took.

Do you have an ipod/iTunes? There are many podcasts of meditations that are free and they are really very good. You can also download some from Amazon onto your phone if you have a phone that you can do that with. Many are inexpensive and you may be able to find a free one there too. I have found guided meditations to be great at helping me relax. If you try them I hope you find them helpful too.

Take care

hi luckyEmpath..
Thank U for ur advice on CBT and guided meditation..
i have downloaded some guided meditation and hypnotherapy audios on to my phone . finding it tough to concentrate and relax ..
I ve rescheduled an appointment with my doc 2 morrow or so .. will ask him about CBT
Right now i am only on medication ( Mirt 15) getting vivid dreams and nightmares , i feel i am not myself.., extremely lethargic ..

will it take time for the side effects to subside ?
&why has my doc not put me on CBT sessions? is this the routine Protocol? do u have any experience with mirt or other ADs? please advice what else should i ask my psyche doc..
regards

Estranged...If you have never done meditation before it does take some practice. Many people believe that meditation is the art of silencing the mind and they get frustrated when this does not happen. It is actually impossible to silence the mind completely. Instead, mediation is the art of letting thoughts pass by without us getting stuck on them.

When I first started practicing meditation I started with a guided mediation because it held my attention and prevented me from getting caught up in my own thoughts. And when I did, there is usually a part in the meditation where they say "If a thought comes into your mind and you find yourself focusing on it, push it aside and come back to my voice". This does take practice before you can catch the thought and push it aside successfully. But, when you do get the hang of it it's wonderful to be able to simply think "I don't want to focus on that now" and push it aside. It's so freeing.

Good luck with it and good luck at the Dr. I have not been on the meds you mention, I was on Paxil. Sometimes it takes a few weeks for the initial side affects to wear off but if it has been longer than this and you are still experiencing them you may want to switch meds. Not every med works for every person because our chemical makeup is different. (P.S. Paxil also intensified my dreams)

It is very possible that your Dr. is already doing CBT with you. Any time your Dr. suggests that you change your thinking or that you look at a situation differently they are using CBT. So if you have said to your Dr. "I can't leave the house when I am anxious" they may say to you "You CAN leave the house. It will be scary but it is possible for you to leave the house. Nothing is preventing you from leaving except your own fear". This is CBT. It's changing the negative thought (I can't) to a positive one (I can). The more often you change it the more you believe it and the more often the positive thought will come first. It does work. Next time you are with your Dr. see if this verbal exchange happens. If it does then you know CBT is at work.

Keep us posted on how you are doing! :-)

hi , doc has added venlafaxine in addition to mirtazapine , unable to tolerate side effects of ven... causes terrible nausea and nervousness
got to discuss it with my doc , had a session of couselling also.
theraoist says i need to prioritize things and tackle em one by one , first in the list is my mental health she says..
has given me a 6 weeks time to stabilise my self ..
then deal with my physical ailment( Disc prob) , then my wrecked marital issue.. but has asked me to introspect into the issue again ..
have started a bit of meditation also. but still feeling a lot worried ( is it my nature i ponder )
got to learn some coping skills too
any experience with self hypnosis any body? Thanks a lot LuckyEmpath ur advice is so much apt.. please motivate me to get over this and help me segregate my life tasks..
regards

Do you take time to do hobbies, have any pets or like to go places? I hope this new year has some new things for you and may you find time to enjoy smaller things in life as well. Music and writing is very helpful. Hugs-

6 Weeks to stabilize yourself. I hope she helped you come up with a plan to do this. If not, sit down and start making a plan of action. What you will tackle each day/week over the next 6 weeks. What is your goal at the end of 6 weeks? Once you write it down, decide if the goal is achievable. If it isn't, change the goal.

I have done self hypnosis and hypnosis with a therapist. I prefer to do it with a therapist because I get so much more out of it. Many of my issues are deep-seeded and go back to childhood so doing the hypnosis on my own was not going to work. But, I do think the self hypnosis is good for getting rid of bad habits (i.e. smoking, overeating, poor self image, etc).

Keep us posted! :-)

ya , i have kind of planned as u have suggested to set a goal , think about pros and cons and jot them down in a journal and work towards it ,
i am trying to do some introspection , but should learn to creatively do it rather than worry..
As u said LuckyEmpath i should sit down and plan wat will i be doing for the coming 6 weeks , each day , each week : writing them in a journal will help a lot i guess

i had attended a self hynosis program long back and also have a book , just picked it up today and read a bit , i want to make some positive affirmations through self hypnosis

My marital prob keeps bothering me a lot .. i have been a victim in hands of my wife( Dominating, Abusive and inconsiderate) . we r seperated but not legally should i initiate legal proceedings now for a Divorce or wait for my mind to settle down a bit..?

Thanks a lot anneccleaver .. i like visiting places , am a avid music lover , have got a good collection ... should restart listening or take up a new hobby .. i dont have a pet though any suggestions on creative engagements to beat the Blues..? HUGS

i have a lot of good friends , but coz i have withdrawn .. not in touch except a couple of them .. got to reconnect