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guitarman79
guitarman79

I grew up going to these people's house, They had a daughter and a son....The son had mental issues.  Their son didn't have a brother....I think the family made me pretend I was his little brother.


I think he know's He doesen't have a little brother, He just can't except it.......usually theires a limit to what a mental person understands, But, He know's what a big brother's role is....He teased and shamed me, when I used to go over ther.  To him, it was funny. I didn't think so.


I think it's nice for what his parent's did for him....makeing me, and maybe other's that went over there, think that he had a little brother,  But,  It is misleading, to put a person in a uncomfortable positon like that.



Curtain situation's make me feel VERY uncomfortable, Like growing up.....I use to to go over to friend's of the family house....I was close with their daughter, and they had a son, Who had mental issues, He didn't have a brother, I think He thought I was his little brother,, someone he could tease and tell what do, and how to do it......And if their was stuff I understood and he didn't, I tryed to assert myself And explain it to him, He would get upset.....Thinking I'm older then You, I should know more then You..

That kind of stuff made me feel Very uncomfortable.....if Uber and or Lyft existed......I would have left, That's how uncomfortable it made me.


Blood may be thicher then water, but, I did feel very uncomfortable around  him.


I couldn't tell the parent's, because.....their these ultra self-ritious  hollier-then-though people, Who believe  "what would Jesus think  if I did that" that You don't talk about other people hehind their back's.


If You  even tryed You would here something like "You know we don't do that in this house"


I know You should probably Put Your discomfort aside for the mentally disabaled, But, being disabled myself,  I am very sensitive about stuff like this.


I  hate feeling this way, I can't even sleep without thinking about it all these year's later....


I don't know what do.

Bella1212
Bella1212
You are having post-traumatic stress disorder and you might want to get some counseling over the phone or therapy over the phone cuz during covid time may not do in person. You should join the post traumatic stress group here and you can also get support from people on this forum. But you could start and call and see if you can get on a waitlist to have counseling or therapy around your post-traumatic stress disorder that's just what I think you have but you may not have it that's just my guess.
Bella1212
Bella1212
Anxiety and mood-stabilizing drugs help me with my anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder but I'm not saying you have that all I know is that when you keep thinking of past events and it's traumatizing that's what I have but I would also join the post traumatic stress group here.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
There is an active PTSD group here on DS.

Go there, there are some excellent support connections to help you recover a better balance.

You're releasing these thoughts as you continue to heal, and they went from the back burner to the front burner.

Try adding things you did to protect yourself (they happened, I learned how I protected myself in this type of situation, just took a little while to relax and flow through the moment knowing it was not done).

You are not alone in this!
arfie
arfie
For what it's worth, PTSD is an anxiety disorder. I am officially dx'ed with PTSD but often find great benefit from the less specialized anxiety groups. Life has a way of defying specialized approaches to just about everything.

I, too, am handicapped by more than **just** PTSD and carry the heightened sensitivity of being socially marginalized. I believe that heightened sensitivity is a good thing when well managed. Awareness and sensitivity to my own needs is a critical element on managing my handicaps. If I am hurting myself, I am probably not helping anybody. I'm certainly not helping myself.

I seek my balance with the Buddhist proverb, "If you can't help, at least don't hurt." I protect myself without analyzing, judging or aggravating the handicaps of the people around me. Gentle support from a safe distance.

Wish I had clear and easy answers for both of us, Guitar Man. Mostly, I take ^it^ one round at a time.
guitarman79
guitarman79
The part that hurts the most is, His sister, Who I grew up with (we're the same age) we have known eachother for.......it will be 40 year's.......she posted on facebook that "You should keep your discomfort to yourself" onetime, I can't even talk to her about this. Best friend's are supposed to talk about stuff, I never felt like I was able to talk about it growing, when I use to go over there for dinner, It was so quit You could hear pin drop. Bo one talked to eachother, I felt like such a outsider.
rmb
rmb
Did she say that in response to something you mentioned that was related to her family or her brother?
guitarman79
guitarman79
I think someone must have said something, that they felt uncomfortable with brother.
Now, I'm afraid if I say something it might destroy the relationship, and I'll look like the bad guy.
rmb
rmb
If it were me, I wouldn’t discuss with her any issues you had about her brother or her family. It may put her in a weird position. If you need support for that maybe seek it elsewhere, here on DS, a therapist, etc.. Might be something your therapist can give you insight into.
guitarman79
guitarman79
well, I've hit a snag with the counsellor I said that "he thought I was his little brother, and that...we were just brother's in Christ" Her response, "I'm Sorry about Your Big Brother, It's frustrating Being The little Brother"
I guess I didn't make myself clear, So I got frustrated and left that counselling site.

I Finally got up the courage to tell my mom the situation, with this guy, First she was like 'I don't know what Your talking about.....Then I explained more about the situation.....She said that was 30 yr's ago don't worry about it.

I can't help but to worry about this
guitarman79
guitarman79
I just a PTSD group, I don't know if it's the right one the situation above, I posted about........this is the one I found: Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
rmb
rmb
Here's a link to the DS PTSD group. It looks like a pretty active group: https://www.dailystrength.org/group/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd
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