Well, I would say that being careful with your appearance, your words, and your actions make a huge impact on what people remark on when a social event is turned down, for whatever reason.

I've had people call me out for turning down a local event, just because I didn't give a reason. Later on, after a while had passed, I asked what the big deal was and just shook my head.

There are times when you choose the high road for your well-being. It's not worth being angry over a positive decision you made, unless you feel it was wrong.

You are absolutely right. Society judges us soo harshly and guves us certain terms to follow or how we should be. I struggle with this everyday and I am learning how to just be me no matter who hates it. The first thing most people do is to be negative, sometimes it is good to be positive for a change. In the end "Do you" no matter wat

I think it's because males are there to plant the seed, women are the receptacles. Males usually have hideous sex drives, and 'need' whatever they can get.

So therefore any guy who turns it down is somehow "doing it wrong."

The last boyfriend I had used to get an ego trip out of telling me how many girls he had turned down, and under what circumstances. He made himself look fantastic with the stories, but as I got to know him better I realised he was turning a failure into a success: he was describing situations where he was paralysed with fear, inadequate, had a sexual dysfunction that I helped him with but at the time wouldn't have known what to do with it - into stories about his self control, standards, beliefs, etc.

That's probably what people think is going on when they see a guy turn down a girl.

So yeah, that's where they are probably coming from if they think you're mad. I would think you were mad, too. When there is a choice between nothing and something, something is better. Especially when you are young. When you are old, I think nothing is often favourable to something that isn't good enough, but when you are young, get what you can because it's all life experience and everyone young is shockingly useless at life; all of them. That's you as well as the other person. Everyone needs to learn and grow, and they don't do that at home with a good book.

:)

Well, I am not like most young people. I don't think like most of them think. I don't like the same things. As I said, I'm just not into the party type of girls. Most of them are really immature. I'm not going to say everyone who parties is immature, but majority of them are.

It is quite unfortunate that what is acceptable for one gender is not always received the same way for the opposite gender. At the same time, there are people out there that understand why guys turn girls down without assuming they are gay, and I think a lot of it has to do with age. I would have to agree with you that it is quite sad the amount of things people assume, especially when they don't even understand the whole situation. The best thing I can say is to try not to pay as much attention to the assumers as they don't run your life. You do :)