Anxiety Support Group
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Hi. I have been dealing with anxiety for a couple years now. Recently, my anxiety got so bad, I was blocked from texting someone very important to me because of my irrational thoughts. I ended up bullying them in trying to get them to text me back; I didn't realize they were stressed and having a hard time themselves. Would it be a good idea to set up a face-to-face meeting with them and talk about my anxiety? I've talked with a therapist and read 2 books. I've done well in the month since that incident - but I don't know the next steps. What do you do once you hurt someone else?
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
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Years ago, I won a mirrored armoire from my job. It's in my bedroom but I rarely stand in front of it. Yesterday, I had to have a dexascan done so I had to change into a gown. There was a full length mirror in the changing room. I'm aware that I gained 5 to 7 pounds over the last year from cheating on Keto but I didn't know what it looked like. It was a reality check.
Let the face-to-face happen when the other is ready, take more time in showing you've taken steps for yourself and also let yourself continue to heal and grow. Maybe a third person can relay a message of your apology and sincerity and then let it go from there.
What I would do is send them a text (Or e-mail, or private message through social media.... whatever you feel comfortable doing) and say "Hello. I was thinking about you. How is it going with your ………. (thing they were stressed about)? I'm here for you if you need anything."
Right now, put the focus on the other person and not on yourself right off the bat. Listen to their problem first. You are kind of the one that has to make the first step toward mending this, and the way to do that would be to ask them about them.... not talk about yourself just yet.
Learning how to make amends for the times I've hurt people during my psychotic episodes gets my vote as the most important skill I picked up in my decades of psychotherapy. Aside from healing important relationships in my life, making amends also helps reinforce the changes I am attempting to make in my own mental health issues.
Every case is unique, but among the ways I have kept the door open to making amends is sending an apology card via snail mail. It gives them something physical to hold while they contemplate whether or not there is future hope for our relationship.
Gentle empathy, Mac. I hate it when I go bone-headed on my closest relationships. NFF! ! ! (No Fucking Fair)
This person may not be ready to participate in any sort of conversation with you. So, I agree with snail mail, however, write out everything on a private paper, put it away for 24 hours then take it back out and reread it. This will give you a perspective with more detail than the original writing. Do this as many times as you need to in order to get the note of apology down to a few sentences at the maximum.
What this does is use "less is more" in moving forward.
When the person is ready, let it go, and move on.
Best wishes.