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Lonely but proud

OllieTree
OllieTree

In moments where I'm in despair, I feel like I desparately need someone but also want to be alone. There's a certain solidarity in sorting through difficult emotions alone and then carrying on. I don't lean on other people without feeling weak and desperate. So, I'm lonely but proud. It doesn't bode well. 

Sunshinegirl0228
Sunshinegirl0228
I used to not reach out when I need help. Now I have people I know I can rely on and reaching out is easier.
I’ve been alone yet hating the solidarity too. It’s a hard place to be.
jny
jny
I think if you have a good friend or family member that is willing to just be there when you need them its ok to talk about things once in a while.
arfie
arfie
In my strictly personal psychoweirds, "I feel like I desperately need someone but also want to be alone" resonates loudly with my reflex to reject before I can be rejected. Rejection was one of the more solid cornerstones of my childhood conditioning and? ? ? Ouchy papa. . . Rejection hurts life a father fuck. Why would I risk further hurt by letting anyone get close to me? Any time I feel bonds strong enough to hurt if I lose them, my conditioned reflex is to reject before I can be rejected. Any excuse will do.

The lonely pride borne of that psychotick didn't bode well with me, either. Overcoming that lonely pride was/is worth the effort. I still feel the reflex on a routine basis and still ain't no social butterfly, but there is much solace in sharing the load. It really does take a village to live a healthy life. That fact doesn't have to be a source of pain.

But that is me. . .

Gentle support while you sort your own.
hyperpgal
hyperpgal
I'm A "Fend for Myself" kind of gal---but when things get really bad--you have to reach out--it is humbling, but necessary...and a good lesson...that asking for help can be a life changer.
Frogsoup
Frogsoup
I feel the same. I hate reaching out because it makes me feel like I'm not strong. I don't want help I like doing things alone.

But sometimes I do ask for help and though it makes me feel embarassed, it helps me get through it. Sometimes its good to push yourself to reach out.
whiteknuckles
whiteknuckles
Asking for help is not weakness its strength. For me the loneliness starts to have a mind of its own and wants to feed on the solitude. I do prefer being alone myself and have to force myself to go into the world even with all my anxiety and depression but that has taken much counseling and effort to get there.
I find it easier to have a dog to walk myself, this helps
Hope it helps
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