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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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nate11
nate11

Hello everyone


first time I've posted....actually first time I've ever joined a group or anything like this I've always kept a lot of my demons to myself I've never talking to a therapist or have ever been on meds for anxiety but have dealt with it since I was around 23 is when it first ever started and I am now 34...I'm not really sure what to do about it anymore I used to actually be able to control it pretty well just tell myself to "man up you are ok" but lately it's been really bad I just get these episodes of straight doom and gloom and feel like welp this is it this is the end having a heart attack for sure or just some stupid thing I feel even sometimes the slightest pinch or back pain find myself googling symptoms and talk my self into having all sorts of diseases and it just comes out of no where I'm fine all day for the most part but for sure afternoons and evenings are the worst....I apologize for rambling on not real sure where I'm going with all this just wanted to actually talk i guess....my family has never been big into sharing problems and I guess that's where keeping a lot of this shit in comes from but just wanted to possibly see if it would be a good idea to finally maybe get on some sort of meds thanks for reading have a blessed day 

arfie
arfie
Hello Nate. Welcome to DS. Sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

The problem with the *suck it up* approach to anxiety management is that anxiety takes a cumulative toll. Every time you suck it up, the internal anxiety savings account grows bigger and bigger until it implodes.

The good news is that the more effective anxiety management techniques are still readily available and making this post is a tried and true first step toward finding the techniques which will work for you.

Welcome aboard. Hope you find stabilizing companionship here.
Thor2008
Thor2008
Nate - my relatives are like yours. Man-up, suck it up, big boys don't cry and such. I found myself lost in depression and anxiety, then I was hospitalized when I tried to find a permanent solution. My relatives still today look at me like I failed some manhood test. I keep my relatives' at a distance now and at least my mom has accepted me back but no others. We are one our own when it comes to this. Also expect most people you meet to be the same way. There is a huge stigma against mental illness.

You should get a psychiatrist to help with meds. Those can take a while to get right. The shrink will also give you a formal diagnosis. Next a good therapist that you can talk with and will guide you to become less depressed. A good therapist is critical.

One thing that will help you now is journaling. Writing down your thoughts and emotions on paper. You have to organize your thinking and it will help you to excise the depression and give you insight. I share my journal often with my therapist.
Secouya
Secouya
Nate, I am sorry you are feeling anxious, there is nothing to be embarrassed about. Anxiety is not your fault and you are not alone. Anxiety is not a weakness. You don’t necessarily have to take meds, but in some circumstances it helps. I would first seek out the advice of a therapist who can help you sort out your thoughts and help you identify what might be triggering your anxiety,

One key to improving anxiety are relaxation techniques. Deep breathing from the lower belly can naturally calm the fight or flight symptom caused by anxiety. Journaling your thoughts and emotions can often help you see trends and identify triggers. Meditation, exercise and activities you find calming can also help relieve symptoms. Below are some links to help you understand the effects of the flight or fight symptoms caused by anxiety and tips for calming it. I hope you feel better soon and that you can find serenity and peace. Best wishes.

https://www.psychologytools.com/resource/fight-or-flight-response/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/prescriptions-life/201709/7-ways-calm-your-worried-mind-and-reduce-anxiety
achicade1
achicade1
thanks for sharing, sometimes that helps, just getting it out of your head and telling someone else! I find it helps me, anyhow. Glad you are here and sharing....
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Welcome to the anxiety board at DS.

Keep a private daily journal to help you sort through the thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

Being a part of a support group will help you find your better balance. Best wishes.
hyperpgal
hyperpgal
yes-try the meds! I've always been a "push through it" kind of person...and did so for years until my nervous system just gave up and I couldn't function-I hate meds...but honestly, they are a Godsend-and will make it so when you find the great therapist you will be able to process what they are saying and will allow you to see things in a more positive way. There is never any shame in bettering your situation!
InfiniteWonder
InfiniteWonder
Thanks for sharing. Those feelings can be terrifying. Keep writing, keep talking, even if it’s not to your family. There are people who understand.
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