Screw them. They're obviously rude, and not worth your time. Just be polite but aloof, and move on. It's disappointing when people suck, but a lot of them do. Give it time, you'll find other people who are cool.

I would take your friends advice about going about business as usual. Sometimes I just don't want to text and ill see that I have one but ill just try and remind myself to respond later. Sometimes I forget. If it wasn't a specific question you needed answered I wouldn't worry about it too much.

Yea I consider it pretty rude, if someone text me and I don't want to talk to them I will not do something like just ignore the text, I tell them that I really just don't want to talk to them. No need to hand out a number and then just stop in the middle of the conversation and keep someone guessing. Another friend of mine said "maybe she's playing hard to get" but if that's the case I suppose she's not my type of woman after all then.

You are way overreacting.

Carry on business as normal. this person doesn't owe anybody anything, and if they aren't free to text they don't have to text.

You're making too many assumptions about why they did not send a text back the second time. Rather than putting them down or going into hurtville, maybe just put yourself in their shoes for a minute and ask yourself why you might not respond.

Many times I get a text, see it on the fly while I'm working, and forget to reply for ages. I rely on my friends not to assume I'm a douchebag and figure out ways to punish me. If they did that, I would give them the kick.

If you want grownup friends you have to behave like a grownup, and go in knowing you are not top of their list, they have their own lives and their own responsibilities and their own things going on at the other end of that phone. So take what they've got to give, or take nothing.

Bridgie, you do realize you're telling someone in an anxiety forum that they're "overreacting" right? and please don't insult me by telling me that I'm not a grownup, I didn't come here for that honestly.

When it comes to texting, it's a toss-up and it's new to this generation level.

It is not defined like face-to-face interaction because you're doing the communication through an electronic device.

Anxiety is natural. It is easy to get caught in the moment of checking, double-checking, triple-checking to see if you got a response to your text. Before this technology became common use, we used to have to physically contact the person we wanted to speak with. Now, we can be far away physically and still share communication by text.

Next time you find yourself wondering about the text, consider it a snail mail situation. Sometimes, you get a response, other times, you do not. Nothing personal, just the way the system works. There is no right or wrong way to handle texting that is common use, either. It depends on the level of the relationship what the rule may be in that particular situation.

However, when you apply feelings to the choices, remember that you're only seeing your perspective which may be missing some important detail you are not aware of.

It bothers you, so choose some method that works to get you in the moment. Let the text go off in its own direction, and choose a different method to communicate with this person, if that is what you want to attempt.

Best wishes, you are not alone.

Thanks mideye, I feel the same way about text messaging. I'm still a pretty young guy but I'm definitely old enough to remember back when the thing to do when you got someone's phone number was to call them, but it seems over the past few years that people prefer to text and communicate through social media websites which seems so impersonal to me. I grew up being in phone calls or day or talking to people in person, I just have a hard time adjusting to these new methods people want to communicate with. I feel like if I don't go along with them then I'll miss out on a conversation with someone. Maybe next time I'll just go with my instinct and fight my anxiety and just give whoever it is a phone call. However I'm not sure if I should try to continue that with this current person, If I call them even though they didn't respond to my text a few days ago I don't want them to think I'm being pushy or anything.

I know it's so hard to make new friends, especially as an adult.

Something I have comforted myself with in the past and still do even with people I am close to when they don't text me back is maybe they just got busy, I don't know what's going on on the other end of their phone or in their life.

Not to be dismissive by saying this, I understand you probably and rightfully do have hurt feelings about this. I would say play it cool, act like it doesn't affect you and just say hi the next time you see them but don't be pushy, people usually don't like that.

I was born in the 70s and remember life before cell phones and the Internet. You know as I think many of us here do that communication used to be very different and it is hard to adjust. I understand.

For casual new acquaintances i have found texting to be better. Some people get nervous when they have to talk on the phone with someone they don't know very well. I know I do.

There will be other people for you to meet that will be more responsive to your texting. Some new friends don't work out. It's sad but true. People also just fall asleep early sometimes and miss texts, there could be a totally normal explanation for this so don't take it too hard if you can.

Enigmatic I apologise for talking about grownups, I picked your age at about 17 or 18.

I always like to be told I'm overreacting, because then i can relax. You started the OP well, but within two posts from others were swayed to the point of saying she was rude and 'if she was going to be like that, she was not the woman for you.'

Now, i consider that bullying. All she has done, is fail to reply to one single text, and you have built her up to be someone you are rejecting because they're not good enough.

I think that's mean. I certainly don't think it's adult.

Sometimes the truth hurts. But that hurt is not the fault of the truth-giver. That hurt is the fault of the mis-belief the person had to start with. That truth was always there. You just didn't perceive it till they said something.

So i guess we have to ask as people roaming the planet, whether we wish to become knowledgeable, or appear knowledgeable. Because we cannot do both. In order to learn, we must first acknowledge that we do not know.

Anxiety is a horror story, I had an attack today. But I didn't blame the person who triggered it. It was my fault, whether they triggered it or not. It was my problem. It would have been EASY to blame that person. But unfair.

And it would have hurt them.

Life's never simple. You always have to travel a mile in the other person's shoes. And you have to not let yourself be boomeranged by what people say to you either, into believing someone is good or bad.

I think I would probably react the same way you are. But here is the thing and this is what I try to remind myself of: people have lives. People get busy and have a thousand other things going on and just might not put the "importance" on a text or phone call that we do. It doesn't mean anything. Maybe they got busy, maybe they keep meaning to get back with you and forget.....I do that all the time. If I check my phone, I could probably find three people that I was supposed to answer back. I actually just remembered that I left my sister in law hanging about 8 hours ago! lol Oops. And she WILL take it personally, I promise u that. I am in trouble.

But the thing is, if you are still worried about this and feeling pre-occupied with it, then that is a sure sign that you don't have ENOUGH going on in your life. Those of us with anxiety have minds that do not like to be bored or without drama and negativity. And if you don't keep those minds occupied and focused on something healthy, they are going to be looking for something negative to keep themselves entertained.

I know that you know that this is not a big deal. Listen to what your conscious self is saying and ignore the games your subconscious is trying to play. Every time you start to dwell on this say "nope, not going to do it" and get your mind on something else. And as far as seeing the friend goes...just say hello and chat and forget about the texts. They can only be a big deal if you turn them into one. xoxo

Nah Bridge I''m 23 and yes I wouldn't want to be with someone who ignores me, I don't like being ignored, I never have. I don't see that as a problem, if you're ok with it that's perfectly fine, but you can not seriously consider me a bad person for not feeling the same as you. I didn't do anything "mean" to anyone, including her especially as I haven't even seen or spoken to her in days as I've mentioned just earlier in this thread. You might like to be told you're overreacting, but it doesn't make me relax, it has the quite the opposite effect on me, but I don't expect you to have known that as you don't know me personally. I've not built her up to be someone I reject, once again, ignoring someone is a way of rejecting them so that is why I was feeling rejected by her. I thought this was obvious given what I've said previously but if not then I've reiterated it now so that hopefully any misunderstandings are corrected. I don't like when my words and meanings are misconstrued.

I was just venting as I said because I was quite upset at the time. I'm feeling a bit better now about things as opposed to then. I realize that enough time heals most wounds, suffering from anxiety just makes that time seem like it's endless when in reality things blow over quicker than we seem to notice. Never the less, thanks for all the replies, I think I've figured out where I'm going to go with it from here. hearing multiple people's opinions is always a bit eye opening.