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How to stop feeling responcible for mom?

Edger
Edger
It just adds to my anxiety and stress levels. She is 89 years old. But her mind is fine. She won't listen to anyone. She is responcible for the concequences of her own decisions. She live in her own home.

Barbara
koolman
koolman
Make peace with the fact that she's living life on her terms, so respect her wishes, and be there to help if she asks for it. Dare I say, at 89, her days are numbered and soon she will be gone from this Earth, but at least she will have lived and went out her way.
gramybear
gramybear
My mother passed away last February at the age of 80. The older she got, the more stubborn she became and would not listen to anyone. She knew everything, or so she thought. For some reason, the older our parents get, the more stubborn and frustrating they become. And some become mean spirited as well. I have to give your mom a lot of admiration that she is still able to live on her own. Not many older people can say that. koolman is correct when saying that her days are numbered. Take it with a grain of salt and just remind yourself that it's common for many older people to act that way. You will get through it and I know you will be glad that you did. Hugs GB
Community LeaderMid
Mid
It is her choice as long as she is able to do this. As Gramybear says, our parents dig in their heels to live their life as they choose, and when they are in pain, they get grumpy, stubborn, lost, lonely, and isolated.

Our best gift we can share with them during this part of the life cycle is to be kind, smile, gentle, and let it go. Just because they say it does not make it our problem. We can listen, be positive, and appreciate their sense of being and we do not have to agree with it, just do our best to work with it.

Best wishes.
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