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freakin out a little

Tryna_B_Better
Tryna_B_Better

long story short , a friend of mines (separated for a WHILE now) husband showed up at her house high as hell and beat her to a pulp.  i was asked to come stay for the weekend in case the guy bonded out and showed back up. not that im particuarly big or intimidating but shes a friend and she has 3 kids, so i was there asap.  weekend rolls by, bonfire with weenies and marshmallows, GOT, spider-man, video games and i had to come home.  now the kids all really want me there (one requested i be stepdad, sweetest freaking thing in the world man) but this guy who was supposed to not be getting out, somehow found a way to trade his shit car to bond out, and now the woman and the kids are freaking out and i have no transportation at the moment and no way to make sure they are ok.



and my nerves are getting shot all to hell over what he might do to them.



deep breathes, trying not to take a klonopin but might have to.



thanks for listening

Community LeaderMid
Mid
Writing it out releases the words.

So glad you were there for the weekend.

Sometimes, being there to listen is all you can do. They know they have your support, encouragement, and that you'll do what you can, in the circumstances, you are limited to listening at the moment.

These situations happen and it takes a lot of courage, determination, and effort to find a positive resolution when one person wants to be mean, be offensive, be a bully.

I hope you are able to remain calm, knowing that you are listening, too.
arfie
arfie
Glad you felt safe to vent here, Tryna. Keep venting. Listening. . .

Your size is far from the most important support you can offer in situations like that. Just knowing you are not alone in those high stress situations is priceless.

Kudos on your willingness to be there for her but leave your super cape in the closet. We all have limits on how much we can actually help and letting a drowning victim drown the rescuer helps no one. Don't forget your self care.
Ash122
Ash122
Also. Take your medicine if you need to. I struggle with trying 'not to take my medicine' as well.
hyperpgal
hyperpgal
Is there any way she and the kids can come to you? cab? friend who will drop you off? I think it is worse when you worry about other people....I mean when you worry about yourself-that's one thing--but for others it adds a whole dimension to it.
Tryna_B_Better
Tryna_B_Better
thank you all, for the positive reactions. heypergal yes, i have set up an uber account and i just bought them a security camera for the home. it cant stop an attack but it can at least provide either deter action or at least provide evidence in court if necessary. im doing what i can. i just feel so helpless in this matter and scared. but i did take my medication and im calmed down, but still logically there is a possible threat about which we have to worry.

thank you all so much, thank you. really.
emmaotter
emmaotter
Hello All,
I’m new to this forum and just cane across this post. Tryna_B you are an amazing person for caring for this individual and her children and being there for them. One thing domestic violence can do is leave the victim to feel so isolated! I am an advocate for domestic violence and sexual assault and work in a victim shelter for women. Maybe tell your friend you will be there for her but also finding resources for her like a local women’s shelter or dv agency which usually offer confidential counseling! Again, please be careful as there is nothing more dangerous as an abuser that feels they have nothing to live for. Best of luck - Emma
Tryna_B_Better
Tryna_B_Better
emma, thank you so much for your insight and your recommendations. i will certainly pass that information along. also, welcome. i am fairly new myself and have found a lot of help here. its like the opposite of facebook. people here actually try to help and your words are very helpful. i truly appreciate it. thank you
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