Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I made a friend at my old job who I bonded with over the high levels of anxiety we both have. We became close fast as we started to lean on eachother when times were hard. It was so nice to have someone who understood exactly what I was going through. Over the year of our friendship he gradually became harder to console. When he got anxious and would not accept coping mechanisms, it would trigger my anxiety so I started backing off to take care of myself. This set him into a fit of anger where he called me a rainbow a hurtful things. At this time I was routinely going to therapy and taking meds, I was in a good place.
A week later he apologized and I explained my motives. He immediatly understood and everything was back to normal. Every couple of months the cycle would start over triggered by something I did that he didn't understand. He was explosive with rage and it honestly scared me. Finally a group of friends and coworkers went bowling for his birthday. We had an absolute blast and all got silly. The next day he accused me of being beligerantly drunk and told me how I embarassed him and told me off. I didn't have an ounce of alcohol. I told him that I couldn't be his friend anymore and I blocked his number and on social media. Its been six months since then and he emailed me last night saying he quit his job, lost his house, and is moving to LA and would like to make amends. It sounds like a cry for help that I would like to respond to but I do not want to continue a friendship. What do you think?
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I did the dumbest thing today. I charged my earbuds, unplugged the block and put the block in my little bag instead of the earbuds. I wasn't happy about that when I got to the gym. What a dummy!
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Ever since I stopped doing therapy because of insurance, I've been feeling that old tense and irritable sense of anxiety and stress. I hate that. I was making so many strides and changes during therapy, my therapist would acknowledge all of my progress and accomplishments, and I miss that reassurance. Today I thought about it, and I made those changes! She would always tell me that I chose to...
You are smart to put your well-being first. That is important, and you recognize that you are not responsible for what the friend says, does, or how they respond.
One of the best closures in putting those situations to rest with positive resolution is to give a meeting a chance in a public place and to offer the best wishes you have for his future endeavors. Say nothing about friendship, just be kind in your words.
Or if online does your well-being better, then do that. It really depends on how you want to find closure.
When someone has lost their home, their job, and is moving across country, they often realize that they need to make amends to those who supported them during the troubled times without judgement.
Best wishes on your decision, whatever you choose to do.
If he quit his job and lost his house and now moving to your city, he is looking for a free place to stay. If you are okay with having him stay with you, then go ahead and reply back to his e-mail.
I wouldn't want that, but that is just me.