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doing badly - open discussion

arfie
arfie

there is an axiom in the music world that you don't GET to sound good until you are WILLING to sound bad. even a highly trained and practiced musician is going to make mistakes while learning/creating a new song. once the individual musicians learn the song, there is more hit and miss within the process of bringing those versions together into the instant gratification we enjoy when we click "play" on our listening devices.


i am not a musician, but my own music therapy uses live instruments, voice included. this music axiom translates seamlessly into my recovery program. when i begin using a new therapy tool, i can't expect to master the skill on the first go-round. anything worth doing is worth doing badly until i master the method. even if i never master that particular tool, the willingness to try exercises my psychic muscles for future attempts.


am i making sense? thoughts?

malibumark
malibumark
don’t worry about being perfect. I should take my own advice, I know it’s easier said than done. Maybe try to take some time when you use your music therapy to just experience, listen and just ‘be.’ My feelings change a lot and so I know it’s hard to rely on feelings from own vantage but if you can be strong enough(again my own advice to myself) trust that you’re going to feel differently at times but stay true to your integrity. Peace
HopingCxn
HopingCxn
Arfie, it’s happened before for me with your posts: this is good timing for me. Trying something new, I have confirmed that I’m getting a divorce. But realizing that in trying to do that well for all will still include mistakes.
Bobby5000
Bobby5000
Very nice post. Something similar, what player missed the most game-winning shots in basketball, Michael Jordan, who made the most- same.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Music is the language of the world. There's nothing, even out of tune, off-key, that is as beautiful as the sound of music coming out of the work of a person expressing their 'new' way. What starts out shaky often reveals a deeper sound, song, scene, surrounding and brings a smile to someone.

Good for you, Arfie!
arfie
arfie
thanks guys. i'm in a period of dental agony and it is harder than usual to know when i'm making sense or when i'm sliding down another proverbial rabbit hole. for sure i ain't achieving perfection any time soon.

itsy bitsy baby steps. . . plying music therapy. . .
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