Take time to do things with your self. Like yourself for who you are, right now.

Keep a journal, do things, and help your pattern of thought work for you.

Best wishes.

You did not mention if you were seeing a therapist but I would recommend it if you're not. Late 20's is far from being over the hill.
A lot of people dont get married until their 30's. My best friend just met the love of his life and he's 38, she's 35 , neither married before.
My step sister just had her 4th child at 44, and it was planned. Sounded
a little dangerous to me but she's a doctor.

I think it's best to be out of a relationship to fix yourself. But it's definitely an incentive to healing completely. So maybe the time just wasn't right for you two.

You're not too old to find someone new. Not by a long shot. Spend some time on yourself and becoming who you want to be, and then get out there and knock 'em all dead. :)

I am sorry that you are upset. In time you will forget about him. You need someone who will be there you and support you thought everything. Frist you got to take care of your shelf. You are still young and you got a lot of time to find the right guy. You will know when you find the right guy. It might take some time to find him but you will find a man that will love you and will never leave you.

By bringing the attention to me I am faced with the fact that I messed up in many situations. My anxiety made me play out all of my fears until I got an answer and I became to high pressure. My life revolves around fears of being along and being homeless. I hate myself. What am I doing? I lost the best thing in my life. I wish I would have sought out therapy a long time ago. He told me he would contact me and we would meet in a couple of weeks. I keep analyzing the truth to that. He never responded to my emails because he said he wanted no contact until then. He was the nicest man and helped me with so many things. The fact that he might be lying is killing me. I hate me!!!!! I told him once I wish I could have a new brain. I don't think someone without these struggles knows the real pain and the things t can make you say. Just writing is therapeutic to me. I wish I had someone to talk to

I feel your pain as I read your post. Sometimes life seems so unfair and we wonder why everything has to be a struggle, and torture ourselves in the process. I've been there, too. Please share as much as you want or can on here. I'm a relatively new member, but this website is a great resource to communicate with people that struggle with the same issues we do.

My thoughts, don't overanalyze why he did what he did. It's almost impossible to understand some people's true motives, and quite honestly usually not worth even trying. Late 20's, you are not old. I married for the first time at 36. try to focus on 1 positive thing. I've had to do this in the past and grateful that I'm not blind, in a wheelchair, no missing limbs, etc. You certainly are trying to get the help you need. One step at a time.

Thank you! I know things could be a lot worse. I just don't get how he could treat me like this. It's not so much the breakup just the way things happen. I thought he loved and cared about me and was actively trying to seek me help. I feel like I was just garbage to him and that's what hurts. I keep looking at my phone waiting for him to call and obsessing over it. I'm debating about showing up at his house or sending more emails. I need Closure. The relationship was not bad we just argued about fears my anxiety caused. I truly enjoy spending time with this person and he said we would always be friends. I keep spending my nights beating myself up. I caused this. I did. I had a dream about us seeing eavither last night and maybe that's why I'm in tears this morning.

I'm sorry you are going through such a hard time. It sounds like to me that he does care about you. Just the fact that he seemed to try and want to help you means that he never viewed you as garbage.

My anxiety and depression is/was really hard on my relationship too. I wanted him to make things better for me and whenever I had anxiety problems or got really sad I was terrified that my behavior would drive him away. In fact, this worry often made things worse. But the truth was that pushing my feelings onto him and half-expecting him to fix me did hurt him and put a strain on our relationship. I saw that I was hurting him. And if you think of it from their point of view. They care about you, but it is hard for them to understand what you are going through and they feel helpless to make you better. And if you just keep expecting them too that is unrealistic. My anxiety wore my boyfriend down a lot.

My advice would be to focus on learning to trust yourself and focus on healing. And running after him will make things harder for both of you. Remember that you are strong and loveable. Spend some time forgiving yourself for what has happened and for all the pain you have gone through and forgive him too. Everybody has weaknesses and I don't think his actions and his promises were meant to hurt you. He was probably just trying to find a way to feel better and heal his own pain. So don't give up on yourself. You are worth it. You just need to forgive and love yourself.

Hey there! I have totally been through that. I had some pretty awful breakups in my late twenties and when I was thirty. Met the love of my life, my now husband, at 32 after some counseling and getting into a better place in my life so this can be your opportunity to get to a place where you are ready when Mr. Right walks into your life in a few years. Trust me I was a mess too but I am SO glad those relationships didn't work out so God could bring me my husband. You will be okay!! :-) BTW I had to go on an SSRI in addition to the counseling right after one of the breakups so that may help you too.

Sorry for how bad you feel. I haven't had much experience with anxiety until a few months back but I have gone out of my way in that time to look into it and it seems to mostly be based around incorrect modes of thinking. It's never nice when things don't turn out the way we want or expect but these things happen.. It's probably pretty stressful dealing with us anxiety sufferers. He may just be looking out for himself right now and trying to sort his feelings but whatever conclusion he comes to, don't put the blame on yourself. You didn't ask for the troubles you have, you just happen to have them so there is nothing to hate yourself for. Try not to come to the worst conclusion immediately. For instance my anxiety is built around health stress, and so if I'm to have a small heart flutter or an odd beat as many do occasionally, my mind first goes to, "well, this is probably the start of heart disease, I'd better start figuring out what I'll do when the heart attack comes" when instead I should probably be looking at how many cups of coffee I've had. I think as anxiety sufferers we really need to monitor our thinking continually and question ourselves on whether our thinking is logic based or anxiety based. A therapist would be great for helping you learn this and other tools to order your thinking, and if your anxiety is based in some other mental health issue should be able to recognise that and see you get directed to the right treatment for it. To be perfectly honest, you could look at this as a totally positive situation. It's so much harder to work diligently on ones self when you have a relationship to stress you and another person to think about. So if you end up single make the best of it. You may recover much quicker without distraction and worry over another.

Thank you guys so much!!! I constantly find myself breaking down crying and missing him. I feel like everything is my fault. I hate myself. Talking this out makes me realize everything is not my fault though,

This is not all your fault! Some guys are jerks and some guys can't handle dating mentally ill people. My boyfriend couldn't and that was partially why we broke up a week and a half ago. Also I didn't want to marry him and he stole a bottle of Klonopin from me. There were many reasons why were broke up as I'm sure there are many reasons why you and your boyfriend broke up and not all of them are your fault.

I'm 39 and excited to be dating again. Believe me, in your late 20s you have plenty of pretty years left. You are quite young. I didn't get married for the first time until I was 34.

I have realized in my life that all relationships have a lifetime and the only person who will be in your life your whole life is yourself. Be kind to yourself. Take this period of singleness as an opportunity to enrich, enjoy and pamper yourself so that you can be ready when love next opens it's doors to you.

When you're next looking to meet someone, there is this self-help book called "Calling in the One" that my therapist recommended to me which is extremely effective in getting a boyfriend. It worked for me the last time.

He told me he understood my struggles and was going to help me through the way. I keep analyzing everything and figure out where I went wrong. I know my wrongs but what did I do to deserve this treatment? At the end he was blowing up with me a lot and he said it was because of me. I think it was because he could never stand up for himself and he was so frustrated. A few weeks ago I pointed out a parking spot that he missed. He told me it wasn't a parking spot so we parked elsewhere. I walked up to it and said you could park there. He blew up at me that I always criticized him and he literally ran to his car and sped down the street. I started crying. I knew he would come back. He blamed these anger outburts on me. I loved this man because he cared. I don't get how he can just let me suffer.

There is a really excellent Breakups and Divorce support group on DS that I am linking too: http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/support-group

It's helped me a lot as I too am going through a breakup. Added bonus, you can look at the divorce posts and think how glad you are you didn't marry him and have that additional extrication to get out of which would have been a lot more painful.