Have you seen a doctor? There are a lot of things that can cause what you are referring to including infections. I would have a doctor check you out first to make sure it’s nothing physical. Also if you haven’t already I would seek out a therapist who can help you sort out your feelings and give you coping strategies for your anxiety,

The key to anxiety is relaxation. Deep breathing from your lower belly can help calm the fight or flight instinct caused by anxiety. Also gentle exercises, meditation, warm bath and anything you find relaxing or things that make you happy can help relieve anxiety.

Here are some links that can help you under stand the fight or flight process and tips for calming your anxiety.

https://www.psychologytools.com/resource/fight-or-flight-response/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/prescriptions-life/201709/7-ways-calm-your-worried-mind-and-reduce-anxiety

I hope that you will seek medical attention. I also hope you find serenity and peace. Best wishes.

Hello Emmy. Welcome to DS.

The only reason it sounds weird is that so few people are willing to talk about ^it^. The wide variety of products available to deal with this social faux pas offers some clues to just how common ^it^ is.

For the incontinence, I monitor my liquids, avoiding diuretics such as sodas, coffee, cottage cheese, etc. I also take extra care to wear clothing which doesn't show the wet spots.

For the retention, I turn on the water faucet next to the toilet. The sound of running water often carries a power of suggestion that helps me let go. Breathing exercises and gentle stretches while I am on the commode also help me relax my muscles enough to let go.

Gentle support while you find what works for you. Welcome aboard.

Welcome to the anxiety board at DS.

Yes, this happens to a lot of people.

What I do is I sit in the bathroom, and do the even breathing while my body finds the relaxing moment and motion begins naturally.

Best wishes as you find what works to give you better balance.

Thank you all for replying and the suggestions. I am scheduled to see a physician on Friday. I have a therapist as well. I have invested in the products as well as of yesterday and I did wet myself in a diaper. I’m 20 years old and it’s embarrassing to have to wear one, but sometimes relaxing isn’t enough for me I’m too tense. I’ve tried it all the water from the sink, the bedside pan, breathing, and the meditation techniques. They are not working for me. like I said I have battled this before in college and truly it’s been going on for a couple months. It’s just not worked. I know it’s not an infection because there’s no pain or burning. It’s a symptom of my anxiety. The diaper saved me from making a mess and for the Poise pads because I’m too tense at the toilet for some reason when I stand up it’s a mess, but it has worked. I just have to let it fly in the thick Poise pad. I don’t have a lot of money, but this investment and the diapers are worth it because I can’t get it out on the toilet so it avoids the mess.

I have never heard of that as a symptom of anxiety! I am glad you are going to the dr about it--maybe anxiety meds will help---here's a thought--if everything is ok when you stand up---can you go while standing in the shower? I mean--then you could maybe make it through the night?? and for part of the morning?

My daughter had this, and she went to a physical therapist for bladder PT. They do a form of biofeedback where you can see how tight your bladder muscle is and then do exercises to learn to relax it. What happens is that the muscle is too tight, and then when you go to hold it, it can't get any tighter and so the urine spills over. the muscle has to relax so that when you go to hold it, it can contract and hold it. if that makes sense. we did the PT all summer one year, and then as soon as school was about to start, she got so stressed that she couldn't relax her muscle anymore. So then we went to an acupuncturist, and that really helped as well. It is like the sympathetic nervous system is turned up too high, and this causes the bladder problem. the sympathetic nervous system is what is turned on when you are afraid and running from a predator. or have anxiety. Acupuncture can balance your autonomic nervous system to calm the sympathetics down. I hope you can find a solution.

You may want to consider seeing a urologist.

I've never had the problem of not being able to use the bathroom, but I think a doctor could advise you on that. But even though I have no problems with using the bathroom I definitely have an increase in accidents when I'm stressed. Thankfully wetting my clothes is rare for me, but wetting my bed is very frequent. I've unfortunately had a knicker accident this year, but at home thank goodness. This week has been bad for me in bed though, because work has been pretty stressful.
I hope you get it sorted out soon