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Sramos
Sramos

Hi,


Im new here and my doctor suggested to try this. So here I go. For years I have had anxiety and impulsivity. There have been doctors and therapists, im still trying to find a way to control my triggers and impulsivity when i become angry. It has cost me relationships and many jobs. I am happily married to an amazing man and he sees the triggers, I am doing this for us and my future.


healingslowly
healingslowly
I understand and have lived a lot of this too -any chance you suffer from borderline personality?
mtd
mtd
I think the psychologist is the best avenue for you given your history. You say you are on meds. What is the purpose for the meds? Have you ever asked yourself why you get angry? Have you considered your coworkers have witnessed your quick anger? That that may be the reason for their cool treatment? You do describe yourself with poor impulse control and quick to anger. Right now it seems you are your own worst enemy and finding the answers will help you feel better about yourself.
hasty_05
hasty_05
As someone who is the brunt of other people's irrational anger, it doesn't feel good to be on the receiving end. Maybe thinking about how others feel when you are "impulsive" might help. Yes, the wacky hormones in menopause can cause some anger management issues. I had a boss who blamed hers on menopause and said she was much calmer on hormones. I mentioned I think my husband is way too reactive, he blames it on me or others doing X or Y, but the truth is the problem lies within his own thinking. You seem to recognize that the pattern lies within your own thinking. Do you drink alcohol and if yes, how much? Stopping and drinking nothing can really help the anger and the hormonal imbalance. But you describe this as a long time pattern of thinking. You mention in the past thinking you don't have to take BS from other people. This is very good insight. The truth is, we do have to sometimes takes BS from people. If we want a happy life and marriage we do have to learn to calm our over reactivity and self absorption. Thinking we are always right and we don't have to take BS from other people is self absorbed thinking and possibly low self esteem. You do need more, and it sounds like the psychiatrist thinks you need a therapist which is a great idea. You might look into CBT or REBT. And also praise yourself for the times you do control yourself and do think about how others feel over how you feel at that moment. So praise yourself when you do it right.
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