take it one step at a time ashnana. try and stay in the moment and deal with each issue one at a time..you've gotten this far you can do it again!

Also, maybe google student services at your new school. Maybe there are support groups with other students who feel the same apprehensions as you? Also they’re maybe free counseling for students too. You’re not alone in this! For those who went to college these fears and excitement happened to all.

hello ashnana. welcome to ds. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

reaching out for support here was a most excellent first step in facing that very natural and understandable fear, as well as the social anxiety complicating the equation. getting my anxieties of the day into words and having safe places to share those words is, hands down, my most effective anxiety management tool.

i enthusiastically second malibumark's idea of looking int the student services available at your new school. during my college years, i received some most excellent counseling and support through the student services offices.

keep us updated, ashnana. you are not alone.
welcome aboard.
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Hi Ashana
Anxiety can be such a problem for many of us. It's normal human emotion that rears it's head when we least need it. I agree with arfie, that finding ways to express your emotions is an important part of healing. Remember the saying, "It's OK to not be OK", well that applies here. This is a new experience any many other students probably feel just like you. We are all routing for you. Remember that.

Then why are you going to college? Is normal to have some anxiety going to school. School have stress. Yes, going to college is to learn how to be social. You will met a lot of people. college must have some advisors you can ask. A doctor, counselor to help students. My philosoph is to enjoy life if possible. If you are not enjoying it. Then do'nt go. You should tell your parent. There are things colleges do'nt teach. You can learn how to survives from the computer. Infact ,you can learn anything from the computer. It is ok to alone.

Here's to the adventure of going 'to college". It's whole different ballgame, and so first inning, you get your self into the place necessary to start off one step at a time.

Distract your thoughts, and think of excitement for anxiety, and give your body and brain a chance to relax happy thoughts.

You are not alone in this! You can do this!!!!!

What you are feeling is normal. Probably almost everyone starting there will also be feeling some nervousness. That feeling will go away soon.

Do you know anyone that is going to the same college? Friends or people from high school? Maybe try to connect with them (by Facebook, etc) beforehand, and I think it will help to see a few "familiar faces" there at college.

You're going to be fine!

Peterthegreat; "Why am I going to college"? So I can have a career as a Vet Tech.

Hi Ashnana.
Yes going off alone can bring in anxiety. The college should certainly have some help. And maybe a group you can join right off the bat to make a new “friend”.
My son, when he went off , hated and still hates speaking in public. I had to get him speach therapy before going to college. I told him to go in and tell the professors right away how you feel. He did what I told him.
All went well for him. He had anxiety even getting sentences out to friends. (Because he had a slight stutter or getting particular words out).
Anyway. He did great. I was super concerned he was very nervous. But he made it. And graduated AND made it through interviews. AND got a job.
Anyway. I am not by any means making less of how you feel.
However. There are many others who feel the same way even though you wouldn’t know it. And schools definitively offer help. Hopefully you can tell a parent?
Good luck. You can do it. Feel free to continue to ask questions or write on DS.

It is normal to be a little frightened and wondering how this new transition will go for you. Yet, this is your time to be independent and work hard towards your career goal. I so wanted to get off to college and for financial reasons went to community college first, lived at home and worked part time to save money. And then going, it felt so great to be free but then also a little homesick also. And the course load was hard, so I had to learn to take care of myself and study hard. You might sit down and think about and maybe make a written list. List out everything you are worried about. Just list it out. Don't tell yourself this is silly, just give every feeling a name. This exercise is to help you name your feelings and then examine them. Say you are afraid of sleeping in a new bed. List that out and then think about every time you have slept in another bed not your own. Remind yourself you did that and lived to tell the story. So instead of fear you "broaden and build" -- this means you broaden your understanding and perspective and you build coping skills. How will you say hello and meet new people in the dining area. Think this out and make a plan. What hobbies or clubs would you like to join. That kind of thing. This broadens and builds your internal strength and self understanding. You'll have more confidence because you will know yourself better.

You are afraid to go off on your own you say. Well, you don't really have to if we examine this more. You could do a local community college perhaps or work for a year and live at home and save money. And you can get counseling at college. Sign up right away when you get there. Remember this is only a transition time. This is not how you will feel the rest of your life. Join some clubs, get a part time job, be nice and friendly to everyone and make friends (but be careful who you trust). Be self protective and wise yet take the time to meet new people and take lots of time before you actually trust anyone. Observe their character first.

Please come back and let us know how you are doing. Give us a report because people are very caring on here and we are all rooting for you and hoping the best for you.

Start practicing anxiety coping skills, many of which are freely available on YouTube. Check out the channel Therapy in a Nutshell. Emma McAdams is great. Once you start getting some encouraging results from using your skills, you will be less afraid and feel more in control. Working with a good counselor one on one is also a good idea. I know the anxiety doesn't feel manageable, but it is.