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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Adult separation anxiety

chichi1995
chichi1995

I need help. I love my boyfriend so much and I know he lives me too but Every time he leaves my side for more than 20 hours I get really sad and I don’t like to get like this. It’s like when he leaves I’m just so bland without him and I want to cry a lot of times too, I lose sleep thinking about what he’s doing when he’s not around me. I just hate not being with him but sometimes he had his days where he wants a little space and that hurts too. How do I control this? I don’t want it to ruin my relationship because I really value it and I don’t want to fuck it up by overly caring for him. 

Community LeaderMid
Mid
Find who you are by yourself. Define your goals, your hobbies, your activities. In other words, find something to distract yourself and learn to live "in the moment". Love is not being together all the time. Love is finding time to spend with each other and sharing other activities.
Take time to try new activities, and do different things on your own. Dry up the tears, figure out how bland you really want to be for you and work on it.
Best wishes.
ChiTownChick87
ChiTownChick87
I am the same way. When my fiance leaves ( we don't live together because of financial problems), I feel empty. I get severely depressed, and feel the need to hear from him. If I don't get a text in over 24 hours ( he isn't into texting as much as I am ), then I freak out. I have talked to my therapist about it, and about how I have abandonment and trust issues. It all stems from messed up relationships. Even though we've been together for 7 years, I still get scared that he's going to leave me. The messed up part is that I know my issues will push him away, if I don't get this under control. I'm stuck.
Hol13
Hol13
I relate to this somewhat, however I do keep myself so busy that as soon as my boyfriend leaves I don't even have time to get caught up in the feeling. I create tasks that I can only do if he isn't around so that I am distracted then and contributing to bettering myself at the same time. This will also help you become more independent if it sounds like something you want to try. I hope this helps! Tell us some of your favorite hobbies!!
mangymoosemaine
mangymoosemaine
Learn the art of being alone. This is a highly undervalued skill in our society. What do you enjoy doing? Hobbies? Books? Next time you miss him, go for a long walk in the woods. Fall in love with yourself :)
chichi1995
chichi1995
These answers really help me im going to find a hobby/activity to take up
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