Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I am having the extreme anxiety of being abandoned again. I have let myself get too codependent on my partner as a stay at home mom and now he is talking about possibilities of breaking up and what will happen after we seperate unless i change. My anxiety as been sky rocket high from being told this and im not sure how to get over it or make everything better when i thought i was doing ok before i was told this. I just want the bad feeling to go away and feel enough self worth that makes me feel good enough to not have to be abandoned by everyone.
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I did the dumbest thing today. I charged my earbuds, unplugged the block and put the block in my little bag instead of the earbuds. I wasn't happy about that when I got to the gym. What a dummy!
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Ever since I stopped doing therapy because of insurance, I've been feeling that old tense and irritable sense of anxiety and stress. I hate that. I was making so many strides and changes during therapy, my therapist would acknowledge all of my progress and accomplishments, and I miss that reassurance. Today I thought about it, and I made those changes! She would always tell me that I chose to...
You're in control of your feelings. So choose what works to help you feel better in the moment.
is there any chance of reframing his abandonment threat as an opportunity to work toward a happier, more secure you? a safe place, such as this one, to get your anxieties, etc., into words and share them with people who are struggling with similar issues can make all the diff in finding effective solutions. if nothing else, the sharing helps me feel less alone with all the psychoweirds of ^it^.
just wondering. . . i mostly wanted to welcome you to the community.
Might be worth trying? Seems you have a lot to talk about, a lot going on in your life, and a therapist could help get some clarity and some direction.
I would suggest you get yourself to a good family law attorney in your area, consultations are often free for a half hour or so. You need to know what your legal rights are in your area. If this partner is the father of your children, he will be obligated to pay child support and have visitation rights. If you are married, you may have legal rights to family money and he may have legal obligations to pay the bills. In my state, legally the one spouse or partner can't just walk out as they are expected to pay their share of the bills as before. But that is not always easy to force and means taking them to court which does cost money for an attorney. Knowing your rights and obligations under your state's law can help you deal with this troubling news from the partner. And going to couples counseling could potentially help you two learn to work together more. I don't know what his expectations of you are, so I advise this with caution.
It’s s a lot to process and work through. But you are worth it, whatever happens in your relationship.
be great to see a therapist for support.
While this may be a codependent relationship your partner really threatened you emotionally and laid out all of the conditions that you would have to meet in order to stay in the relationship It's hard to give advice when I don't know you. I do know the feelings of raw anxiety. Do you have family or good friends that you can spend time with? I hope that you are safe and focusing on yourself. These powerful emotions can wreak havoc on our wellbeing. One step at a time.