Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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today step 1 finally admit i have a problem

beermanou812
beermanou812
I really don't know where to start, I'm 44 married for the 2nd time. This time to the right one. I have 2 of the best sons a 15yr old and a 3 yr old. I ruined Thanksgiving for everyone this yr, and now I ruined Christmas. by bein drunk. I can now admit I have a problem. desire the disconnect , not from the world now I realize I desire the disconnect from me. I can no longer be this person my family deserves better I deserve better. I just haven't figured out yet how to function long term sober. I usually can go months on end not drinking and be ok. Then snap I go on a bender, I wake up before everyone and do shots and smashed by 10. I really don't realize i'm doin it. I'm done bein this guy. you see I drive a beer truck for a living. I know ironic right. not really. I have no desire for beer, no desire to be in a bar. It's all liquer. Any tips?
beermanou812
beermanou812
Thank you everyone I will take all your advice on the meetings and do my best.
Community LeaderExJerseyGirl2
ExJerseyGirl2
You do not need to go to meetings and you do not need to join a support group to stay sober. Please don't get it in your head that you have to do those things to stay sober, or you will be setting yourself up to fail.

If you would like to check out meetings, there are online options. SMART Recovery lists online meetings on their website. AA also has online meetings.

Happy sober new year! Glad you are doing well and are able to enjoy being with your family. Sobriety is pretty great, isn't it?
beermanou812
beermanou812
Right now no meetings is working good for me. Just using all of you guys wonderful advice. Over a wk sober and lived through New year's. Which is a feat all in its own.
Sosa86
Sosa86
I also don't go to meetings and I am working on month 4 of sobriety!
1is2many
1is2many
I quit a million times. Once for two years. I was so miserable "not drinking". I would beat my fists into the bed each night. See I was not treating the disease but just removing the fuel... The way I found helpful was to get some insight and help from other alcoholics that had been there...

I would be able to quit for a week and start feeling better, forget about how bad I felt or how much trouble I had gotten into. It took having a schedule and some people to be accountable to that gave me the extra umph to get 2 1/2 years.

Happy. Sober and happy. That's a miracle in my book.

1-2

The time would always come when the pressure would build to be SO great that I HAD to drink. Now today somehow I can lower the pressure without booze.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
Change doesn't happen overnight but AA can help give you the support and knowledge to live a happy, sober lifestyle. It saved my life and I have never been happier!

You can google meetings in your area!

Good Luck!
kookoobrutus
kookoobrutus
Sharing what your going through may help you and others as well.For me The Power of Now by Eckart Tolle was helpful in identifying and controlling unconscious behavior. Realizing that there was no way to have just one was liberating. Although my ego would say the opposite,when I became truly honest with myself ,it was possible to see drinking or drugging moderately was impossible.This is my experience so far and I'm gratefully sober for 15 months. I use a 12 step program in conjunction with these methods. Message me if you think I can help you.
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