Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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acinorev92 04/17/2013

I can't count how many times I've been told that it's okay to have one drink, that my friends will stop me after one and I'll be okay. I'm an alcoholic. I tried having a casual drink once already.. I slammed it back, ordered another and started taking shots and drinking more and more drinks. The next morning I woke up still drunk. Later that night/week, I had break down after break down. I was sober for 83 days and I threw it all away, I threw out my sobriety, and self respect.. Yet my friends still try to tell me that I can have a drink.. "one drink wont hurt, we'll stop you after one" or "you'll be able to have a casual drink again some day soon". No. I wont. I'm a bi-polar alcoholic, when I get depressed, I get so low I consider and sometimes try to take my own life. Alcohol is a nervous system depressant...Why do people think it's okay to give alcohol, a nervous system depressant to a bipolar alcoholic with depressive suicidal tendencies?! Why can't they understand that when I ask them to help keep me sober, I mean I need them to help me stay sober, not encourage me to drink! Has anyone else had this issue? How do you make people understand? I've explained to them over and over...

deleted_user 04/18/2013

By the way the AA Big Book does not let you get away with saying you are mentally ill. The question is can you be honest with you?

much love,

revbatessr

deleted_user 04/18/2013

Stop going out with these people then. Honestly, you know you're an alcoholic. You need to get with some kind of programme that will allow you to get sober permanently. That's what i did!

acinorev92 04/19/2013

I went to the bar once, and I can admit it was a big mistake because that is when I drank & I thought I would be okay with having A drink, I learned that I'm not and I have committed myself to my sobriety. I'm not going out to the bar, I don't like going out to the bar, but it's when I'm hanging out with friends at their house & they offer alcohol & even when they don't offer they still bring it up & try to tell me that I can drink but don't understand that I can't. I came on here for support & to find ways to get help with having my friends understand my problem. I have had a few people be helpful but I have also felt like I've been attacked. I know I messed up when I drank. I can fully admit that I made a huge mistake, but I also learned from my mistake. I learned that one drink can & will ruin me, I will not stop, no matter what.

ExJerseyGirl2 04/19/2013

Good for you! Sounds like you learned from your last drinking episode. If you have a friend you doesn't get it when you say, "I don't drink," you might want to ask... "why do you care if I drink or not? It is unhealthy for me so LEAVE ME ALONE ABOUT IT."

People without a problem can have a hard time understanding what it is like to have a drink and not be able to stop.

Last year I had an interesting time at a party. It was in a big loft and every single beverage they had was alcoholic. There was not even a kitchen faucet to get water from! Shows you the mind set of some people -- it did not even occur to the people who threw the party that anyone would want something other than beer or wine. I finally found a vending machine -- I was thirsty and I don't like being around alcohol when I am thirsty. Since then I always consider whether I want to bring a nonalcoholic drink so I have something I like. Might work for you to bring your own drink sometimes too.

Marguerita 04/19/2013

I hope you will keep away from these poeple and stay safe until you are on steady ground acinovore

itsjustme8 04/19/2013

You've received a lot of advice. I belong to a support group for people with depression and many are bipolar (I'm not bipolar).

I'm hopeful you are working on getting your meds right. If I've learned anything from the others, taking Lithium at the right level really helps people get to a level playing field. Also, not adding alcohol or other drugs, eating well and sleeping are also key.

1is2many 04/19/2013

new playplaces and playmates... And cogmm I do love this group ... you all have 'chop"..

weinere46 04/20/2013

Sorry, you wont like what I have to say but that does not make it any less true. I know from personal experience. You cannot expect your friends, no matter how well intentioned they are, to keep you sober. IT UP TO YOU AND YOU ALONE. Eric

drcopperhead 04/20/2013

i didnt see that u r on meds. if u r they may advise no alcohol. u can use that as an excuse. ive told people i was allergic. but now i just tell people "the last time i took a drink it took me 32yrs to sober up". thats the truth. i sat in AA meetings about everyday for 2yrs listening to this oldtimer tell me" if i dont take the first drink i cant get drunk". and thats the truth. it took 2yrs to get through my head. when i finally accepted that i couldnt drink at all it made my life much better. u r young, u r realizing young that u cant drink. u kinda sound like a blackout drinker? ever blackout?

deleted_user 04/20/2013

Once i got sober it was suggested I change and that meant everything including .

Including my friends.

donttread 04/21/2013

You won't hear that in an AA meeting. I think you need to not hang out with these people when they are drinking

acinorev92 04/22/2013

I managed to get my new boyfriend to understand finally, he was trying to ensure me that having one drink would be okay, and he'd be there and everything, but I was able to make him understand that I can't because I am an alcoholic, I do have cravings, I am bi-polar with depressive tendencies and as soon as I start drinking I spiral out of control. I think he could tell by the way I was explaining it that I really can't have the people closest to me telling me that I can drink and shoving the idea down my throat constantly. He told me he supports me completely and won't offer/try to convince me I can anymore. I think having Virgin drinks on hand when I'm with friends will be the best option for me :)

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