Yes - counting to 10 would be helpful - something I am not great at
in real life but something I should practice.

Good suggestion, Maat.

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Nothing pays off more than restraint of tongue [and] pen (and postings.)

I've been on this site since last December and through the months have had to look at my own behavior and it was unacceptable to ME. I had to make some serious adjustments in my own attitudes.

I have no control over others, I must keep the focus on me.

As one who can be so lacking in self-control, I must keep my focus on others:
"Our very lives ... depend upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs." ("Alcoholics Anonymous", the book, page 20)

Right Capster, Thank God those assholes keep taking my inventory. I really do mean assholes.

i don't have a library card.... leejo you have presented the key......:)......assholes take my inventory all the time.....they get corn.

sorry, i never take "inventory"........not even sure what that means. and for "hanging with winners".......i always reflect on my utmost favorite quote......."sometimes nothing is a real cool hand".........:)

Skid chains on my tongue didn't happen overnight when I first got sober. I was an angry little sucker. Thank god I wasn't around internet forums then, I would have 'let it rip'. I'm grateful for many who showed (and still show) me tolerance, with a few well placed slaps along the way. Over time, with awareness gained from working the steps and my mates keeping me accountable (and I needed that to learn), I can sit back and look at those that 'hit a nerve' with me, as yes, there is usually an underlying reason for it. CM xxx

Think it through! No contempt prior to investigation either! Love these sayings. Thanks for the thread. I've been on here about 5 months and so my eyes haven't fully adjusted to seeing a lot of the poison spewing.

But Maat, I do have a problem with you that I feel needs to be put on blast here. Your dancing Yoda is very distracting and is affecting my sobriety. No really, I feel a little loopy staring at it.

lol I like your post, but when you are observing aren't you in fact taking inventories. We see someone in trouble what I do is just relate to them by my own experience, if it sounds harsh at times, that's cause alcoholism is a very strong foe, depending on your personality some respond to tough love some do not, but if you stick with facts about yourself and how you are staying sober, you are doing a service. When I see people struggling I see myself where I was when I was out there. There are those who thrive on getting sympathy so sometimes you have to be a bit harsh, I call it reality harsh.The reality is if some of the people I have seen on here posting keep on drinking they are going to be where I am, trying to recover from liver disease. Alcoholic's will alway's lash out at one another if they are still in there disease, it is when we get sober and we stop fighting everyone and all things, that we get well.We all take inventories it's human nature. WE just practice at getting better at taking our own inventory.Hell if I was not taking inventories and I was perfect I wouldn't need AA most likely, lmao!Practice principles, but we are all far from perfect.If someone lashes out don't respond to it, they might be having a really bad day. If someone is working a program they will acknowledge it and appologize for lashing out. If they don't they are probably still using or drinking.

I personally have never been offended on this site and hope I haven't been a culprit. Yes, certain things should be one on one and I do get lots of those, which I really appreciate. But sometimes we need tough love and even taking inventory on others may be just what they need to hear. I think everyone has good intentions, so toughen your skin or stay off the site : )

I see what you're saying. But personally I can take what the perople who disagree with me dish out.
For me sobriety had an effect on my skin, it thickened it!

I need a Drink

sugar coating ppl never works it just enable them to carry on with their behaviour, sometimes there does have to be tough love, not offensive or anything like that but just giving honest feedback.
i think imo if someone does get pi**** off with feed back its only because maybe there is something in the feedback that may be true and they dont like it... its their stuff.

life is one day ... one step

..... i take deep breaths and surround myself with annoying generic people....... but i know that if i had to spend one day alone i would be more selfish............buy myself a drink a gold chain a camper van a house maybe even a useless lottery ticket or a BEER... blah blahhh ..... but at the end of the day I just know that buying things means nothing ......sitting by a fire praying to the spirit or watching the sun set means more ( with a DRINK).........and no matter what i have or don't have doesn't change the fact that life goes on and the drudgery of that lingers......but one thing that doesn't change is i still need to be ME...... and f#@# the world because i like me.....Its all about MEEEEEEEE hahahahaha ....(with a drink ) and no one will steal my rainbow its all i have that makes me unique...........and this is not the end but just a tribute to MEEEEEEEEE so like me or like me not I am what I choose to be :) life is but a journey we all must take so never loose sight of yourself because that will be yourdownfall....cheers to life hold onto it because its so fragile and worthy of your existence..... god bless all who suffer........ the meek will inhert the earth........all we need is acceptace .......and who has that power.... not me says I ... I am justa messenger..... stand tall be rightous ..... thats all we can be .... masters of our own demise.... ( cheers (with a drink) x