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My fiance is a binge drinker

LIONESS22
LIONESS22

My fiance binge drinks, knows the binging part bothers me(I enjoy a few drinks here and there) but refuses to tone it down. He'll drink half a bottle of whiskey- and it's a huge bottle. It worries me because I wonder if I should marry someone who lives like that, and most importantly bring children into the world with him. Especially since the drinking will most likely get worse before it gets better. It's not as if I've told him to quit cold Turkey or anything.  Just to scale back. 


Over the summer he was supposed to attend my best friend's birthday party with me but got hammered instead and couldn't make it. I was furious and hurt- he knew about the party well in advance and if he didn't want to go he should have said so. 


nomo
nomo
Run fast and don't look back. (I am an alcoholic).
LIONESS22
LIONESS22
He always tells me he doesn't want to break up, but I think I'm a security blanket for him or something of that nature. He was engaged before, and I understand why she broke up with him. He doesn't care that I feel like our relationship is toxic, because what HE wants matters, he doesn't think anything is wrong except for me getting angry when he wants me to do everything and not divide the chores up. Again, I allowed him to move into my place that has my name on the lease. I guess I'm his maid or something. The drinking is still the same, and it's getting old.

When we fight, he fights dirty. He says really awful things to me and refuses to discuss our relationship and problems. Yes, I say terrible things too, but he retaliates and says things that cut me to my core. I recently started a new job, but as I said in previous posts I was unemployed for a month and a half. It was not my fault (I worked for someone who was impossible to work for), yet my "fiance" throws that in my face, and I think he feels it was my fault I was let go. During that time, I was really depressed and needed his support, but he wasn't very supportive.

I think he's one of those guys who is a "nice" guy in sheep's clothing, but is actually a rotten and a mean person.
LIONESS22
LIONESS22
I feel really alone right now and scared. All I want is to find someone to share my life with, but I don't know how to meet a good guy. I feel like these jerky men prey on people like me- I'm actually a very kind, compassionate and loving person who is generous. I just get walked all over.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I remember when my wife divorced me, I was terrified of being alone. I also thought nobody would want an alcoholic in recovery. So I focused on myself. I had spent 24 years, living my life through someone else. Now, I was being given a chance to discover who I really was. I began to look at separation as a gift. I began to look at each new day as an adventure and I got alot of pleasure from the little things in life.

You have to ask yourself what kind of life do you want to live. Please choose a life with someone who will love you back....

God Bless
nomo
nomo
Don't feel alone and scared, you have yourself! As I told all my friends since 30 years ago, its better to be alone than with bad company. Why would you want an abuser in your life that is sucking your self esteem out of you And... he has the problem(and probably does not know it and doesn't want to know it). Again, run fast and don't look back. Tell him to leave....you owe it to yourself to be your best friend!
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