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tinydancer02
tinydancer02

I'm feeling broken. I feel lost and stuck and I don't know how to get out of it. How do you move on from pain and heartache in your life? The past is gone. We cannot change it. All we can do is learn from it and make today and our future better. I know all of this. But how do you accept loss,betrayal..all the negative things. How do you learn to live with the things that keep you up at night and hurt your heart? I've lost someone I love deeply. He's hasn't died but he's made the decision to leave my life voluntarily. Sometimes I feel like that's even harder. Being left by choice. Now Im stuck with memories and sadness and I truly don't know how to move on. I keep myself busy throughout the day. I workout. I look at positive quotes. I'm trying my hardest to let go and live happily and freely. But I feel like a prisoner of my own mind. I can't get out and I'm driving myself crazy thinking about things that are done and over with. I'm steadily wanting to drink more and more so I'm having to battle that at the same time. I feel like I am on the verge of a break down but I don't know how to stop it. I feel alone. Sometimes I want to give up and give in. I don't know how to handle all these feelings. I hate complaining and always feel bad about doing it but if anyone has advice I'd appreciate it. I don't know where else to turn right now. I don't want to lose myself again but I feel like it's happening.

LoveyDovey
LoveyDovey
I am really, really sorry that this happened to you and that you are suffering profound grief. I think if you are really going through a lot, it might be a good idea to reach out for counseling. Do you have a doctor you can talk to? Or even a friend or family member? I am considering it for myself as I am dealing with multiple crises right now, as well. I once saw a girl on TV called Jacqueline Saburido. She was burned in a car crash caused by a drunk driver. She forgave the perpetrator, but still grieved over her extreme physical condition. She said her family only allowed her to cry for herself for 10 minutes a day. After that, she had to do something else. Perhaps you are not at a place where 10 minutes a day is enough to feel sad over this lost relationship. Maybe set yourself a time period during the day when you are least vulnerable to drinking, and sit down and let yourself really feel what you have to feel. Fill up your remaining time with productive things, and try not to focus too hard on your grief during that time, but it will be there in the background for a while at the raw stage you are going through in the beginning.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I knew I could not continue on, when my wife of 24 years divorced me for another man..

I posted in the divorce group but all I got in return were replies, tainted the the hate and divisiveness of other people's breakups. I was told to go for blood. I just couldn't do it. That wasn't me....it wasn't who I am. I stopped posting because I was feeling worse, not better.

I needed different help to deal with it and I couldn't think of a better time to call upon my Higher Power! I began to practice meditation and spending quiet moments alone.

One day my answer came to me while I was meditating. I just needed to accept things the way they were and forgive myself for all the resentment and self pity I was holding on to so that I could let it go. Here is the Prayer that helped me with that:

"""Take this from me and look upon, judging it for me.
Let me not see it as a sign of sin and death, nor use it for destruction.
Teach me how NOT to make it an obstacle to Peace,
But let YOU use it for me, to facilitate it's coming."""

Things began to get better.! It's been 6 years since my divorce....since I had my last relapse. I live my life in the moment because the past is dead and the future hasn't arrived but I am the writer of my script....the designer of my future..... and I can go anywhere I want, and do whatever I want! I am happier now then I have ever been in my life! I wish the same for you!

God Bless
nomo
nomo
I am sorry about how you feel but we are here for you. I went on a trip with my niece 6 weeks ago and yearn to go back. My sister passed away from a brain tumor 20 years ago and I have only seen my niece and nephew 4 times since then. I guess my former brother in law poisoned them against us. On our trip I felt so good, I saw my sister in my niece. I felt so nice, but when I came home I felt like I had been in a loving relationship and it had ended, Lots of grief!
1is2many
1is2many
It really co es down to what you focus on. For me to stay sober I need to focus on the positive and try to not focus on all the negative. I found help in my targeted therapy I go to daily. I found hope and now focus is 100 percent important.

Booze kept me a slave to the drug alcohol. It’s a drug. I needed help to get off it

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