FWIW,

I had a recent DUI charge, was rigorously honest about it on my application and during the interview process. And was offered the job regardless. 10 years later (and some promotions), I'm with the same employer.

My advice is to just "do the next right thing." If you do that, things will start looking up for you.

Hello emily071891,

In my personal experience, now and again, about once a year or less often these days, I fall into a rut for no reason that I can explain. I do all of the right things but no matter what I do, it takes two or three days for things to get back to normal. I think that during those times, the mind is doing some sort of reset or rebalancing and shuts down some functions but that is only an unproven theory. Maybe that was what you were feeling today. The important thing is to make allowances and not expect that your life will be perfect at all times. Oh, and the other thing is not to fall into a prolonged period of self-pity.

Therefore, looking at the positives, you are doing pretty well, have been sober for 19 days, and have had an amazing job interview, so give yourself a little round of applause because you deserve it. As for the future, it is good to plan ahead but always bear in mind that there are some things that you cannot control.

People who have spirituality in their lives tend to accept the will of God, even though God often provides for our needs rather than our wants. You have a plan for the future and you have had a great job interview and God willing, you will get the job. On the other hand, God may have different plans for you and maybe those plans do not include you getting your dream job at this time. Either way, it is out of your control so worrying about the outcome will not change anything.

The alcoholic’s prayer for patience goes: “God, grant me patience, but please grant it now”.
Good things come to those who wait.

If they like you, they will look past the DUI.

If they don't look past it, it wasn't meant to be.

Serenity prayer. - accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

It's out of your hands tonight. Don't drink over it.

Take a deep breath and slow down a bit! I know alot of employers and they all tell me the same thing. They would rather hire alcoholics in recovery then anyone else because we tend to work harder and be much more dependable then anyone else! When I was in early recovery, I had my choice of excellent positions. I found that the important thing is to just be honest, if asked. Be truthful about past and present...."that was then and this is now" so to speak. Before going to a job interview, I just say a little prayer asking my Higher Power to help me say the right things. Although I had my choice of work, I decided to go into business for myself. I thought I could make more money so it all worked out for me and it will for you also, if you let it!

God Bless

God knows we all need money when recovering. I often have to ask myself the question do I need money more than I need God? Often I wrongly answer yes. That in turn (when I do choose money over a relationship with God) leads to me using my own reliance on other things than money. Before I know it I am relying on me, myself, and I for everything!

When I rely on myself, it leads to drinking. No lawyer worth having in your life is going to care about money more than you not getting another DWI. If your lawyer cares more about getting paid, rather than you staying sober, maybe you not having money right now is God's power getting your away from a rotten money loving lawyer? Maybe the judge is a servant of God who will see you are serious about change despite any money you may or may not have. Maybe a log of tries to get a job, in an unforgiving job market that writes people off way too easily expecting perfection, is good enough for God to do the miracle. Never have I seen a recovering person be denied a miracle from God because they weren't earning money or didn't have a job.

Our job as alcoholics is not to drink alcohol, God's job in that venture is to do the rest, are you playing God in thinking you need money?

In my situation I took on a job, and two other responsibilities 6 months into sobriety, and quite frankly the money became the God. In hindsight, not having money would have cultivated a much greater need for me to stay spiritually well, but I did fall into boatloads of money quickly, and it filled me with a pride that cause much trouble in my second year of sobriety.

I've gotten a DWI, and if you're paying consistently, even if it isn't the correct amount, and if you're willing to do the right things, justice will be served in more ways than one. Maybe the potential for getting a second DWI and the catastrophe that would cause is the reasoning God wants you to really feel the negative effect this first one has caused. Remember, in recovery, love is always greater than money. Most men and women, believe they are being loved or "blessed" by a God if they earn or fall into some money, but that is a lie in my opinion, the greatest love I've experienced from God when I look at it deeply is the times he allowed me to be poor and to see that man and his "money" are ridiculous and not the power we all need to not desire drinking.

What about all the new "friends" money brings, the way it will make family use you, the way it makes partners say what you want to hear so they can have a piece of it? What about the taxes, the more you make the more they take!

I had to realize that not having money, even if debts were owed, was not, not having power. I still have power, if I do not have money, and when I am dealing with man and his love of money, it is very powerful for me to ask God to direct the show, so I can show man, his love of money isn't always the truth or necessary.

Trust me, you don't want to get back into a faction of society that idolizes money as a God. Anything other than ownership always makes money more important than God intended it to be. Most owners care more about the people they employ than the money they are earning. That is why there are so few owners in the world.

You probably wouldn't want to work for an employer who judged you despite asking the truth about your DWI.

The Big Book in the family after warns against putting financial wellness ahead of spiritual wellness. For me it was very healthy for me to see that the system of the world has a backbone of money making it stand. It was equally healthy for me to see that I had a spirit that saw that as wrong, and that God was in line with that and understood that I would rather have it right. My point is maybe you are going through this money issue so in the future when or after your miracle, when you are a millionaire because you trusted in God, and recovered, you will be the person who doesn't deny the person needing a second chance? Or maybe you are the person who sees the other person with no money as needing help and are able to help them no longer worry about money by employing them and spreading the message that we need to press on and ignore anxiety when money "problems" show up?

90 percent of the world will consistently show you what not to do in regards to money if you want to manufacture a great spiritual experience. Surround yourself with people who don't hesitate when asked to give, or who never overcharge anyone with a need. Take advice from people who value family over money, and it is also very positive for a person early in recovery to be taught by experienced members who show compassion and pity for the poor. If you can get to a point where you see it as impossible for money or the amount of money to ever define a human being, you know you are really growing and in God's plan. Anything else is man's inferior plan that will lead to more misery than joy. If you hoard money, or become too much of a capitalist as a drinker, you'll take it to an extreme and eventually be a miser, or someone who pollutes the spiritual world with your negative comments, criticism of anyone and everyone, and it all will stem from your selfish inability to not think you deserve more than all others. It will be incredibly valuable for you to pay close attention to your personality and your mind taking you in that direction, pray for balance, and pray for God to be your accountant and disbursement of any money coming your way. You'll do great if you ask God every night to take complete control over any money that ever will impact your life in the form of deposits. God is the best banker to ever exist, and his goal is to keep all his children richer than they ever could have dreamed.

I am in a transitional stage of ignoring money. I have found if I consistently do the right thing, am unselfish, but responsible at the same time, the world will want me to move it's money. I make good decisions with money, except when I drink, and there is no reason why It would be a bad idea for me to not have money anymore. At the same time, it no longer is defining for me or defines people.

A lot of it came from rich douche bags that tried to "teach me" and how they show us all money doesn't make you smarter or a great leader. Money doesn't make you have more friends, like-able, or even less insecure. All I am saying is alcoholism will take advantage of our fears of not being stable in a world that demands money for all the wrong reasons. Formulating a love of money early on in recovery is a sure recipe for a battle down the line that many can't over come, and if they haven't learned to lean on their higher power or give all to him, they end up giving it all to money, returning them to powerlessness.

More money, can lead to more powerlessness,
God will lead you to pure power.

Thanks.