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Glamourising the old days of addiction

Zoe777
Zoe777

Hi There,


I just wanted to share my thoughts as they are a problem for me right now and I thought that getting them out into this post might help me move on from them. In my head, I am glamourising last year when I will still addicted to alcohol, sugar, and nicotine. I was in a different job where I really liked the people but things werent adding up, I wasnt earning eniough money, I wasnt getting enough sleep due to long working hours and I was avoiding the goal of getting a career job because I was having too much fun from drinking etc... It was the first I seemed to be able to get away with drinking in the weekday and go to work and for my hangover to go unnoticed for quite some time. The people were really nice to me as well. I sinced moved jobs and whilst alot of important things have improved, my health, my money situation is better, I got some therapy to deal with avoiding things, I still look back and miss those days of fun. I sometimes even think they were better because I liked the people. Where I am now, I am truely grateful for the job and support I have received but I dont feel the same way about the people. I dont want to move jobs yet, because I wanted to get a qualification so that I could get a career job but I am feeling a bit down about the lack of people who I like in my life. I suppose sometimes, its important to be patient. 

billwfriend
billwfriend
do you have a support system like AA? that is a place to make lifelong friends maybe not work related but they are there if you need them....they really are more acquaintances but for the convenience of having someone to do stuff with they go to the meetings where you develop better friendships with some that may help here
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I think that's common to do when you quit without help but if you are feeling like you don't trust yourself, then it might help if you drop in to a local AA meeting. You don't have to say anything, just listen, and see how you feel afterwards. Then let us know.
Zoe777
Zoe777
Hi billwfriend and bobinmaine,
I did drop in on an AA meeting last night as a result of your emcouragement. I felt really shy at the time so just stayed in the background but this morning I feel positve and they were the type of people I would want to get to know, so I just to say thank so much for being kind enough to respond to my post. You have helped me to start digging myself out of a dark period in my life.
finallyawakenow
finallyawakenow
Alcohol, sugar and nicotine! Nice work! I still have a little battle with sugar. I thing I'm done then it seems to sneak back in. I have been doing volunteer work for the past few years and have found it very rewarding and have met a lot of wonderful people. I was very shy before I put myself out into the world and the change has been nice. Assuming you're in the Northern hemisphere, spring should help lift you up:)
1is2many
1is2many
It’s called romancing and it is a very dangerous thought. I need to remember how I was so drunk at the end that it was not fun anymore.

Take the thought of how great it was and then remember how not great it was.

You gotta smash the beautiful green bottle into a million pieces ,literally
Zoe777
Zoe777
Thanks guy, I had a bit of a dip yesterday and thought I might drink. Im feeling so stressed by my job, but I spoke to an fellow AA member and it helped. I'll definitely take your comments on board, I just have to accept that my job is bad for me, and I need to find away out.
Shiney
Shiney
I used to do that too, l went through a grieving process as Alcohol had been part of my life for the majority of it. Then l remembered what alcohol did to me at the end which was that it made me depressed, angry and resentful- so that’s the part l focus on and it stops me from wanting to drink. I strongly encourage you to keep posting on this group, we have all been in your shoes and there is absolutely no judgment. We all have the same goal- to remain sober. I am sober nearly 3 years because of this group and the support l received x
Zoe777
Zoe777
I wrote the original post and I managed to not drink this weekend. I have used cherry juice as a substitute and it also is supposed to improve the quality of sleep. Thanks for your messages. I know I will have to keep on sharing to stay sober.
fifo
fifo
hey, here is my experience, very similar to some I read. My recovery is linked to AA groups. But hanging on a group, was not enough for me. There is a 12 step program and wonderful traditions, and service. Work wit other alcoholics, keeps me sober (different from Dry). I don't miss any more drinking days or casual partners for drinking. My life is completely different from my old drinking way of living. My personal career improved a lot, as I have my mind and brain in my place, and now I am able to take wise decisions in my life.
Zoe777
Zoe777
I'm really having sugar and alcohol cravings today. I went to AA this Sunday and I am going to contact one of the members who is offering to be a sponsor. This is a big step with me as I always try to cope alone. I have a real problem with opening up. I hope you are all having a nice day. x
fifo
fifo
fantastic decision. A Sponsor is someone who will not tell you what to do. They will give their experiences , so you can follow their example, and make your own decision about how far you want to progress in your recovery
Shiney
Shiney
sponsors work for some, but not for everyone, I had 3 different sponsors in a short period of time and found that I did not want to talk about drinking and The Big Book with them every single day - I had the experience where all they wanted was to tell me what to do and I found that difficult. 2 and a half years later I am still not drinking - AA is in my heart, but don't attend meetings and haven't read the Big Book for a long time. So, does that mean I am dry, not sober???? I still thank god every night for keeping me sober and say thy will, not mine be done - again, this is just my experience, we have to do whatever works for us.
fifo
fifo
totally agree with you. A real Sponsor is one who "walks what he talks"
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