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Beer in BBQ sauce

Maat2008
Maat2008
Hi all-
Been a while since I posted here, but something has been bugging me.

Last weekend, I attended an impromptu neighborhood BBQ. I had only just moved in and was starting to get to know the neighbors. I had mentioned to some of them that I didn't drink because I was an alcoholic. Well, the BBQ is fired up, side dishes are going, kids are playing and finally, dinner is ready. It's some sort of meat that had been marinated and cooked in a pot on the grill.
After I ate about 1/2 the meat, I asked what kind of BBQ sauce he used , as it tasted really different to me, and he said, "It was mostly Corona". I just about choked and did not finish the meat.

I know that alcohol cooks out, but I still feel like....I don't know?? It did not make me want a drink, I still have nearly 2 years 5 months w/out a drop, but still...it scared me I guess.

I know now to ask what's in the dishes before I eat...and I also know that there is alcohol in more things that we know, and I do make a conscious effort to avoid that.

Any thoughts...do I need to "confess" at my next AA meeting???
deleted_user
deleted_user
Research has shown that this is not true. Here's a link to the percentages of alcohol that remain after cooking.

http://www.ochef.com/165.htm
Maat2008
Maat2008
Unfortunatly Jacker, my neighbors all party hard and they don't understand that some of us don't want alcohol. I'm sure they didn't do it on purpose, that's just the way the guy makes his sauce and I used to put a little beer in mine too...in fact, I've been toying with the idea of using O'douls Amber in my next batch...but I think not. lol
Maat2008
Maat2008
CRAP!! Now I really do feel like I inadvertently cheated....especially since he said the sauce was MOSTLY corona and I know the meat was steeping in it for about 10 min after a cook on the grill...

Now I need to find an 8pm meeting to confess....
nickyj18022002
nickyj18022002
I would say unintentional so not something you need to worry about. I do check for alcohol in a lot of things before i eat them. I bought a BBQ pizza at the supermarket a while ago, happened to check the ingredients before I cooked it and found out it had alcohol in it.

I personally dont eat any food with alcohol in it. I have by accident on a couple of occasions and it had no affect on me but I like the line to be drawn at no alcohol at all in whatever form.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Awwwww, Maat. It was unintentional. And you didn't finish it after you learned what was in it. A chat w/ your sponsor will make you feel better, I'm sure.

~Chris
Maat2008
Maat2008
One time, at an AA meeting, someone had brought Chocolate Cherries....I popped one in my mouth, then turned the label around and guess what? Second ingredient. I spit it out and when I could, announced that there was alcohol in the cherries. About 4 people spit them out and NO ONE fessed up to bringing them.

WHY do they need to put alcohol in otherwise YUMMY foods????
deleted_user
deleted_user
LOL @ the cherries! Not very bright whoever brought them. Guess their motives weren't magnanimous. ;)

When I was drinking, someone at work bought me one of those candy assortments with the liquor in them for Christmas. Dang... I ate just about all of them trying to get a buzz.
Rick8
Rick8
I personally think people take the alcohol in food thing a bit to far. I eat food that has been cooked with alcohol. If someone serves me chicken marsala which is made with wine, I have no problem with that. As mentioned the alcohol mostly cooks out. I gave up drinking, I refuse to turn into the food police.
nickyj18022002
nickyj18022002
think it comes down to personal choice rick - we all draw our lines where they feel right to us :-)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Rick, I know many who feel as you do. My sponsor is die hard, her boyfriend is not.

For me, I loved wine, and if I can taste the wine in the food I'm eating, it might not necessarily cause a relapse, but just having that taste in my mouth would make me uneasy... regardless of any alcohol remaining or not.

I am certainly not die hard about it, but I can easily enjoy something else. To each his own.

~Chris
Maat2008
Maat2008
To be totally honest...I have had a "near beer" or two, a few times in the 2 1/2 years. I like the taste of beer on occasion...I don't get a buzz, nor am I intending too, and so far, it has not made me jump on the shot of Jose that used to ALWAYS precede a beer. (no training wheels for THIS Irish (in looks and ancestry) red head!!! lol)

I guess it is a matter of choice, as someone stated, and I am happy that I don't drink any more. My life is sooo much better.

To any one that may be still struggling with Alcohol, please know that you CAN quit drinking. And if you use a 12 step program (which I highly recommend) just remember, it's YOU'RE program and ultimately, it's YOU you have to be accountable too.

Peace and be well all, and thanks for letting me "confess". I feel much better!!
bootoo
bootoo
If it will make you feel better, talk about it at your meeting, though I wouldn't exactly consider it a confession b/c, in my opinion, you did nothing wrong. Just something to think about/learn from is all.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You didn't choose to use. And besides you ATE, not drank. For what its worth, I heard someone in a meeting that non alchololic beer is best for non alcoholics. Regardless, don't worry.
jamesross
jamesross
I wouldn't say you need to confess. That's certainly not a relapse by any means. I think that your over feeling a sense of guilt, but there's nothing for you to feel guilty about. You didn't plan it, know it, or intentionally set out for it. It was just one of those rare things that sometimes happen. Lots of times in meetings I see many people develope an over sense of guilt about all kinds of things. I think that's one of our traits or something. When there's no problems whatsoever, just leave it to an alcoholic to find one. Don't waste your time feeling unecessary guilt or shame about this. There are so many good things that require your time. Enjoy your recovery. If you want you can share it in a meeting. Perhaps there is a message in this for someone. But don't waste another second feeling guilty. You've still been sober two years, and five months, and you desrve your sobriety. All the best. James
Rick8
Rick8
I agree to each there own but this post is the point I was making. This women was enjoying a meal, did not taste alcohol, yet stopped eating the meal she was enjoying and feels guilty and talking about confessing. Why? As everyone pointed out matt2008 there is nothing to feel guilty about. If I accidentally drank someones drink thinking it was my soda, did I relapse? Hell no. if it is intentional it's a different story. Otherwise enjoy the wonderful day as you are still sober as you were yesterday and the day before that!