Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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nodp2day 02/03/2010

Results are in and it's not good. Apparently her regular mammograms missed cancer and it has metastaticized. She has spots on her lungs, liver spleen, her bone marrow is permeated with cancer cells as well as the outside of the bone. Without treatment she has "months". If she accepts treatment she could have 1-3 years. She watched my dad go this way and says she will refuse. I am praying for God to give her strength and for myself to gain the strength to accept what is over what I want. She will be 78 Feb. 20th

She said not to worry... it is what it is. I love my mom y'all.

deleted_user 02/03/2010

Oh Jim............ what can anyone say but that we love you. You are such a kind man and you are hurting. I'm so sorry......

deleted_user 02/03/2010

Sorry Jim, I am still sending prayers your way. I wish you peace of mind for the long haul you will have through this.

deleted_user 02/03/2010

Oh Jim, I have been in your exact spot and the only thing I can say is that it simply sucks. I can't think of anything more eloquent to say.

You and your Mum are in my thoughts. And again, I'd like to say that you being sober is such an asset to bring to the situation and to your Mum, however long you have together.

deleted_user 02/03/2010

((((Jim))))))

It is what it is, yes. And it is ok to cry, and feel so sad. I am so sorry-love and courage to you and peace as well.

nodp2day 02/03/2010

and I have NO DESIRE to get f**ked up by the way

deleted_user 02/03/2010

Way to go

((HUGS))

thoughts will be with you

deleted_user 02/03/2010

damn sorry to hear that, my fiance's dad is going through the same thing right now. When I was told about my liver disease everyone thought I would trip, but I was like it is what it is and I have to just live one day at a time with it, if you get all worried the stress can actually cause you to have less time, so sounds like she has a great attitude towards it. In the meantime prayers.

deleted_user 02/03/2010

It is just so terrible that the people who loved and brought us up grow old and die. But I bet you make her proud (cos worse to see the kids you brought up kill themselves before you yeah?)

Sending you warm wishes for minimal suffering. xxx

nickyj18022002 02/03/2010

Jim, I cant know how that feels for you or your Mom but I imagine it must be very painful. I wish you the power to carry the load and you will be in my thoughts.