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Almost 2 yrs

timoA
timoA

Its almost been 2 years since I quit drinking (1 year 8 months 29 days to be exact) and 2yrs and 4months since I quit smoking. It's been tough because I've had the urge to start drinking and smoking due to family issues. I had to move to my brothers house all because he wants someone to watch his son who was born 5 months ago (he doesn't want to hire a baby sitter and I had to move all my personal belongings like bed, clothes, t.v., computers, etc) 40 miles from my town. Sad part is he admitted he wpuld rather go to work then take care of his son simplt because he doesn't get a pay check for raising his child (my brother and his wife earn a combined income of 200k a year). That's where my temptation to drink comes from. Abd my father is still an alcoholic who is also a chronic complainer (he complains about everything everyday). Any suggestions on how I can continue not drinking?

Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
Sometimes life throws a curve ball at us so I can relate. What would happen if you took that drink that you have been thinking about? What would happen if you eventually drank as much as you were drinking before you quit? These are questions I ask myself when I get tested like that.

So the question then becomes, how can I find happiness while doing this charity work for bro? I took up meditation which seemed to help me quite alot. There are lots of guided ones for free on You Tube and I think I have tried them all, . I have a few favorites that I go back to now and then. Sometimes I sit outside in the sun and read a good book or go for a long walk. There are many things we can do to manifest personal satisfaction and happiness,

You are a part of our family here and we love seeing you hang around. If you keep posting and making new friends here, you are bound to find meaning in life. What sobriety has taught me is that there are only two emotions in life. The first is Love and everything else is a call for love. I find love in the outdoors, in laughter, in friends and family, in my pets and in my garden which I can't wait to plant. I have two older sisters who are very well off but I don't focus on how much money they have, I live on a pension and enjoy my solitude very much.

Congratulations on almost 2 years of sobriety. I am sure you will have many more years of sobriety, :)

The serenity prayer is a very powerful prayer and if you get in a bind, say it over and over again.

Don't be a stranger. You have a story that needs to be told. Many will identify and will be helped.

Hang in there. Life will get better.

God Bless
finallyawakenow
finallyawakenow
That’s amazing how you are willing to help raise your nephew. Service to others is a good way to remind us that there are other things than our egos. Especially to a child. Like bob said, seek out happiness in some different ways. Meditation can definitely empower you to explore your mind. Visualize yourself growing from this experience and the gift of living a good example for your family to see. It may not change them directly but may plant some seeds. Just like drinking and smoking would plant negative seeds. Use this time to live a healthier lifestyle. If it can go either way which path do you want to follow?
timoA
timoA
Makes sense, change your mind and you change your world yeah?

It's going to be 2 or 3 years before I go back to my town. Maybe the time will go faster then I think
jeffneedshelp
jeffneedshelp
I remember when you came in. This isn’t worth drinking over. It sounds like you’ve uprooted your life to be helpful. Take it one day at a time.
timoA
timoA
Thanks Jeff, Taling it one day at a time is a good reminder. It's a challenge but practice makes perfect in cases like this
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