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Why is it I get so friggin angry when people won't get their shit together?
I got a call 5am from a kid (22) I love to death. Spent 2 mos in treatment with her. She seemed to want it. Been out using and drinking... lost her job... started hanging with creeps... got kicked out of a halfway house... homeless now... Her 2 yr old daughter is growing up without a mom.
So I feel like a dumbass. I am officially enabling. She was stuck at a guy's house who got arrested. Cops took her keys cuz she was drunk. And who do you think went to pick her up? Yep. I wanted to take her in and fix her up. ME to the rescue. Not.
Well, I dropped her off at the club and left her there. With my shoes. She is sleeping it off. Hoping she wakes up and feels like shit and maybe some angel will swoop in and get through to her. Maybe she will get AA by osmosis - she will be surrounded by mtgs all day.
...I should have left her shoeless.
I don't know how to handle this. She is just a baby. Such a sweet kid with such a hard life before she had any choices.
What do ya do?
I got a call 5am from a kid (22) I love to death. Spent 2 mos in treatment with her. She seemed to want it. Been out using and drinking... lost her job... started hanging with creeps... got kicked out of a halfway house... homeless now... Her 2 yr old daughter is growing up without a mom.
So I feel like a dumbass. I am officially enabling. She was stuck at a guy's house who got arrested. Cops took her keys cuz she was drunk. And who do you think went to pick her up? Yep. I wanted to take her in and fix her up. ME to the rescue. Not.
Well, I dropped her off at the club and left her there. With my shoes. She is sleeping it off. Hoping she wakes up and feels like shit and maybe some angel will swoop in and get through to her. Maybe she will get AA by osmosis - she will be surrounded by mtgs all day.
...I should have left her shoeless.
I don't know how to handle this. She is just a baby. Such a sweet kid with such a hard life before she had any choices.
What do ya do?
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So mad at Xfinity! They're trying to charge me $115 per month for the same service I had been paying $50 the last four years. I took the equipment to UPS for shipping and cancelled my subscription today! Next door was a cookie shop called Crumbl. I had heard of it before but never went in until today. I don't need one more sugar fix, but maybe it will help with my sad) grieving heart....$15...
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I know this is stupid, but after not being able to find a job after graduation for almost two years, I ended up just taking an online teaching job because I couldn't find anything in my field. I was trying to get out of teaching and I feel so devastated. I felt this crushing feeling when I signed the paperwork and when I was in the meetings. I know that sounds so dramatic but it is how I felt. It...
Billy
I think I did a good thing. Maybe. I did call my sponsor who proceeded to tell me to ABSOLUTELY NOT go get her - call her a cab. I couldn't do it.
thing is, he never gave up on me, i gave up on myself
It is hard to know what to do and I just end up angry about it.
Kindness. Compassion. Empathy. ...without enabling. It is hard.
My sponsor would likely say something like carry the message not the alcoholic? I have a tendancy to want to solve everyone elses problems. Easier than focusing on my own?
In this case I agree with the others. Wonderful that you were there for her. The motives are right, but you know...until she wants it, you can't give it to her. So sad.
Inspiring post, Thanks.
My friend stayed at the club all day and took in some meetings. She texted me later and thanked me and apologized (all unnecessary) and I set some boundaries with her but let her know I am always here to help her in her RECOVERY and that it was okay if she was not ready for sobriety, but I will be here to help when she is.
And it did help me to do this. :)
What do I care about shoes bw? Anyway, some people can hit the trash can. ;)
because it is difficult to control a situation.....you are there as an anchor. never damn your self for extending heart. it all comes back.
hmmm.....ever stop and think that you are the angel?
peace
I am thinking page 66 of the book might help ya?!?!!?