My wife will have a glass of wine most every night. usually 2 but over the course of the night. She never gets tipsy and she never has an issue. Me I would drink much faster and much more.

I dont think its that big of a deal to be in a relationship with a normal drinker. It does agitate me to see the wine in the glass and the jealousy comes up but Im just not a normal drinker. She can do as she wants and I just need to worry about me. I choose to not drink and that is that

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Thank You! I have been fighting with this because I know I choose to not drink because I am not a normal drinker but it does get to me on some occasions.

I need to stop worrying about it.

Hello Michelemarie703,

My wife drinks a glass or two of wine several times a week but it does not bother me in the least. In fact, I have bought her a bottle of wine on special occasions.

The reason why it never bothers me that there is alcohol in the house and seeing other people drinking is that I fully accept that I am an alcoholic and cannot drink safely. What other people drink is their own business.

I believe that if I had not gone to AA meetings and got a sponsor to help me through the Twelve Steps that I would still be in a battle against the urge to drink. As a result of the Steps, the problem has been removed

Good for you! While I am only 78 days sober, it is my issue and I don't live with other alcoholics. they even "cleaned the house out" before I got out of the hospital in April (pneumonia/respiratory arrest due to a VERY angry liver...). Occasionally they will have a drink if we are out to dinner but it doesn't bother me. As you said, what they do it their business and I know I can't drink. It is my issue, not theirs.

I don't drink anymore. And my husband stopped for 8 months. But now he started again and its awful. I don't know what to do or how to help him or myself. He scares me sometimes. We moved for his job about 6 months ago and I have no one here. I've slept in a parking lot in my car the last two night because I was scared to be home. When he is sober he is the most wonderful man I've ever met. When he's not he's a complete opposite. I don't know what to do to help him or my self.

Hello TLV,

You may not be able to get your husband sober but you can start helping yourself.

It is not ideal to be away from your family and friends at a time of need so it is vital that you should have some other sort of support system. Is there a women’s group in the area that could offer you emergency accommodation or maybe social services could help?

I would strongly urge you to look up Al-Anon and go along to some meetings. You can learn a lot from other people who are dealing with the same problem. The group below on DS may also be of some assistance.

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/wives-of-alcoholics

I'm so glad my husband stopped drinking when I did. He was not an alcoholic. I think it would have been tough if he continued to drink in my early days. It doesn't effect me one way or another nowadays. I sponsored a lady once who chased her husband out of the house with a broom because she found some MJ that he thought he'd hidden. I had to explain why just because she had a problem, it didn't mean that he had to change what he did. I told her if she was that uncomfortable, she could leave but brooms were out of the question. Good luck..

TLY, I'm sorry for your circumstances. If you are so afraid of your husband when he drinks that you're sleeping in your car in some parking lot, it's seriously time to evaluate the situation. Think about it. You are allowing him to hold you hostage. Please get help from your family, friends. It may be time to get out of the situation. Best of luck, Dianna

My hubby has a beer or two and at a party may get tipsy. I occasionally get resentful that he can drink and that I am an alcoholic, but the last time I caught myself and talked to him about it. I mostly apologized and made amends. He doesn’t have the problem with alcohol I do. I also make sure not to just tell myself I can’t drink. Instead I use the words. I choose not to drink. I am choosing to live a more honest and healthier lifestyle.

I don't think I could live with a person who insisted on drinking in front of me knowing I cannot and will not take a drink, to me that's just plain disrespectful IMHO

God Bless

Thank you guys for you honest! I am dealing with it the best I can. He is building tolerance so it’s grown a lot in a couple months. He also will say emotional things that I have to ignore since he doesn’t mean them in the sober mind. Like he never said it......