I go through great lengths to hide the fact the I wet the bed and wear a diaper. I am embarrassed by it because I know if my co workers and friends knew I wore a diaper and plastic pants that I would be so HUMILIATED!!! I am blessed that I have an understanding wife though.

I think I feel this way because socety will look at me different if they knew.

I know exactly what you mean. As close as I may be to my friends, there is this one thing hanging over me that I am afraid to share with them because of how they may react. Unfortunately, it's a difficult thing, but the hardest part is having no one to talk to about it.

Most of my friends and family know of my bedwetting and diapers. I have never had a negative comment. I just decided I am tired of worrying if others see. There are some I would never tell in my family. As for my friends, I dont associate with uncouth neanderthals, so I trust them.

I guess, because I walk like a drunk, occasionally collapse, and have had several urological surgeries in recent years, all the folks who really know me know that I wear diapers to manage my incontinence. On rare occasions ignorant folk have made snide, demeaning comments that referred to my incontinence. Acknowledging that such comments are humiliating and exasperating, life still goes on. After a collapse, I need to pick myself up, find a place to wash and change, and resume going about my business.

Awh man the crinckle of the plastic under the sheets I was always scared my friends would hear when they came over and sat on my bed.

Yes-I feel the same way. I am in my 30's and still wet my bed several times a week. As a teenager I cringed at the thought of being found out. Several times a year my mom would wash the rubber sheet on my bed and then hang it out in the side yard to dry. To this day, I am weird about anyone that doesn't already know being in my bedroom. I have a darling housekeeper (an older lady) who comes over 3 times a week and takes care of my bedding and diapers.

I more terrified as a kid than now. There was no such thing as pajama pants when I was young so all I had was a plastic sheet to cover the bed. Also my bedroom always smelt of pee as my bedding and pajamas was only ever washed once per week. Now as an adult, I don't make it 'common knowledge' that I wet but also I don't get to concerned if people discover my plastic sheet. They can come to their own conclussions.

In childhood I was scared to death of having anyone know about my problem -- one time a friend came in my room and saw my plastic sheet, and after that I don't think I had another friend in my room, pretty much ever. Then of course I had no idea how common a problem it was and was mostly focused on keeping people from finding out when I had the occasional daytime accident (which was a much more difficult problem).

I went through a LOT of crazy gymnastics to hide my bedwetting when I was in college -- lots of sneaking around to change sheets when the roommates were gone, creative hiding places for laundry bags and cleaning supplies, 3 am trips to the laundry room, etc. I went through 4 years of college living in dorms with 4 different roommates, and somehow none of them ever found out that I wet the bed -- or at least if they did, they never said anything to me about it!

Once I was in grad school I finally decided to open up to a roommate about it, and that was a HUGE weight off my chest to know that I didn't have to sneak around or hide around him anymore. Since then I've discovered that most of my real close friends (not just casual acquaintances but people I've grown to know and trust over time) are just fine with knowing about my problem, and for the most part see it as much less of a big deal than I do. So while I don't make a habit of discussing it with everyone I know, in general most of my good friends know about it now, and they're all very understanding and supportive about it.

I agree Adam. I had a friend visit and sat on my bed and it crinkled! He never said anything to me at the time but not long after the word was out at school. I hated anybody finding out about me wetting and it really affected me educationaly and emotionaly.

When I was in my teens and still wetting the bed most nights my bed had a thick and noisy waterproof cover on it. Usually during the day the sheet would be in the wash and the bed pulled back to air revealing the plastic cover for all to see. My sister decided it would be fun to show her friends my bed. After that there was no hiding I wet the bed as everyone new in a matter of a few days. Thankfully being a big lad meant I could soon deal with anyone taunting me about my bedwetting and although everyone knew it was soon hardly ever mentioned again. The hardest part for me was I had no chance of finding a girlfriend locally as no one was going to go out with me because I wet the bed.

I agree with being totally humiliated to be found out. It has always been top secret in our family. My parents and older sister know and most of my close cousins, aunts and uncles. Bedwetting runs on the male side of the family, so many of my cousins also wet their beds well past the normal age. I do believe that I am the only one still doing it on a regular basis, although every one is so discrete who would know. In junior high and high school I went to great lengths to maintain this secret, although there were a few incidents when someone sat on your bed (the tell tail feel of a rubber sheet) or something had to be washed. Although my mom was really sensitive about it, there was more than one occasion where my bed was stripped or airing out when someone came over. Nothing was ever said about it. A few years ago, I ran into a girl from high school who told me that her brother had mentioned he thought I had a bedwetting problem. The irony, she told me, was that he did as well. So at the end of the day we all bear our crosses and its probably not that big of a deal. By the way, I dated that girl for almost two years and she had no problem with my bedwetting.

Bedwetting also runs in my family....but not exclusively to the males. Four of my cousins...one of them a girl were wetting well beyond the normal age.. Fortunately for me my best friend growing up was also a bedwetter so it was a non issue. We shared a tent at scout camp....this was in the days before goodnites so by the time it was over I am certain the smell probably gave us away. As for my cousins I am not terribly close to them but I know at least one of them is still wetting. A group of us go a cabin together and I know that I am not the only one with a diaper on at night.

l was lucky to have good friends bedwetters like me. Camping and sleepovers together were simple and fun. Our mothers understood and coped ; but mothers reckonedt bedwetters acted young for their age, so had to go to bed earlier than their peers. Ugh! [Tho I suppose it solved some bedtime disputes too]. As for younger cousins, mine all seemed righteously dry. On family holidays they made it vocally clear who was to sleep in the bed with the rubber sheet on & the potty below - the elder cousin who was sent to bed earlier than they were!

With others here I used to fear the tell-tale sound of rubber and plastic sheets, especially in school dormitories!
But when sleeping over with relatives and friends, it is still the first thing I check the bed for. That feeling of relief and peace of mind it gives to this bedwetter to know that "they know" already and I don't have to explain!

My roomates from the college years had to know even though I never opened up about it. I tried my best to cover the smell but it was an old musty house. I had to walk through the living room to get to the bathroom from my bedroom in that apartment and they would be up at all hours of the night. If I had an accident the evidence would be in my room until I could find time to get to the laundry without being discovered. This was in the pre goodnites days.