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Hello everyone!
This is an update about my daughter, Summer. Summer and Justin lived together at the time of his death. She found him in his truck outside their apartment. They had been using heroin together for 3 years so they were partners in crime and very good friends. Anyway since his death, she moved in with my older son Jeremy temporarily. We were trying to get her to go to treatment which she kept refusing so Jeremy gave her notice that she had to move out. We did find her an addiction counselor but she detoxed on her own the weekend of the retreat. I'm glad I was out of town as I probably would I have worried. Anyway she's 5 weeks sober and seems to be doing well. I'm keeping my expectations very low but I'm cautiously optimistic. She has found a Buddhist recovery program called Refuge recovery and has a mentor (sponsor) so she goes to several meetings a week, still sees her addiction counselor and goes to acupuncture and is back at her job. She took several days off during her detox.
Also some of you may know that I have actually used a medium twice to talk to Justin. It was an amazing experience and I truly believe I was speaking to my son!! One week after his death, Summer had come to me and said "Mom, we've got to get a medium. I just know that Justin wants to talk to us." At first I didn't think it was a good idea as it was so soon but the more I thought about it, it felt right at least to explore the idea. Anyway a long time friend gave me a recommendation and I emailed her. She was in Colorado at the time and we did it over the phone. Everything fell into place and it felt right. I have used her again back in September and Summer was present. It was very emotional for both of us and she asked Justin through the medium to help her with her addiction. It was such a moving and emotional experience. We truly believe that Justin is helping her from the other side. We have had so many amazing experiences which I will share in another journal. I have decided not to use the medium for a while as I tend to get really excited and then I get really sad for several days. But I don't regret it. I think it has helped Summer and it has helped me with my grieving. Jeremy on the other hand is very skeptical and chooses not to participate and that's fine.
So I hope you guys don't think I'm too crazy. Love and hugs to my SOTH!!
Deanie
This is an update about my daughter, Summer. Summer and Justin lived together at the time of his death. She found him in his truck outside their apartment. They had been using heroin together for 3 years so they were partners in crime and very good friends. Anyway since his death, she moved in with my older son Jeremy temporarily. We were trying to get her to go to treatment which she kept refusing so Jeremy gave her notice that she had to move out. We did find her an addiction counselor but she detoxed on her own the weekend of the retreat. I'm glad I was out of town as I probably would I have worried. Anyway she's 5 weeks sober and seems to be doing well. I'm keeping my expectations very low but I'm cautiously optimistic. She has found a Buddhist recovery program called Refuge recovery and has a mentor (sponsor) so she goes to several meetings a week, still sees her addiction counselor and goes to acupuncture and is back at her job. She took several days off during her detox.
Also some of you may know that I have actually used a medium twice to talk to Justin. It was an amazing experience and I truly believe I was speaking to my son!! One week after his death, Summer had come to me and said "Mom, we've got to get a medium. I just know that Justin wants to talk to us." At first I didn't think it was a good idea as it was so soon but the more I thought about it, it felt right at least to explore the idea. Anyway a long time friend gave me a recommendation and I emailed her. She was in Colorado at the time and we did it over the phone. Everything fell into place and it felt right. I have used her again back in September and Summer was present. It was very emotional for both of us and she asked Justin through the medium to help her with her addiction. It was such a moving and emotional experience. We truly believe that Justin is helping her from the other side. We have had so many amazing experiences which I will share in another journal. I have decided not to use the medium for a while as I tend to get really excited and then I get really sad for several days. But I don't regret it. I think it has helped Summer and it has helped me with my grieving. Jeremy on the other hand is very skeptical and chooses not to participate and that's fine.
So I hope you guys don't think I'm too crazy. Love and hugs to my SOTH!!
Deanie
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That is awesome!!! It is notoriously hard to detox from heroin, especially without any help. She is a supergirl!!! I am so happy for you that you found a good medium. Didn\'t you tell me that you had also used Theresa Caputo? I might be thinking of someone else. Would you consider sharing the name and number of the medium you are using now??
SO very proud of your daughter, Summer, and each day without that monkey on her back is a gift. I have no doubt she is receiving much help from \"both\" sides and you continue to take the BEST care of yourself that you can dear Deanie.
I believe in finding healing tools that bring comfort and however that might look and feel for each of us is as individual as we are. You will know when you are in need of another reading.
Gentle care on this path none of us ever expected ourselves to be on and thankful we have one another.
Hand in hand and Heart to heart,
XO Joanie
Summer is a strong girl to detox on her own! I am glad you and your daughter can share in the experience of your mutual journeys. My younger son and I became very close during the few years after the death of Josh. Everyone does grieve differently and we have different paths. I am happy you and your daughter are finding comfort on your journeys. Tight hugs, Leda
Thankful to hear that Summer is trying, and doing as well as she is! I know this path as the mother of an addict. It\'s as bizarre and as crazy to me as losing Kala. I will keep Summer in my thoughts and send her positive energy every time she enters my mind.
I too spoke with an awesome medium, about six months after Kala\'s accident. It was truly a gift of healing I gave myself. I know it isn\'t for everyone, and that\'s OK. It\'s simply one of the tools in the toolbox that worked for me. I\'m grateful for the information Kala sent through the medium, as it concreted the truth that she was indeed KALA and that I was not losing my mind believing she was communicating with me. The conversation gave me the much needed encouragement to SEE and HEAR Kala as she is....directly from her to me. There is NO doubt whatsoever that Kala was communicating with Marcel!! Thanks be to Spirit!
Thank you for sharing sweet friend!
Love you!
Love to Justin!
Nope, don\'t think you are crazy at all. Each of us must find what works as we maneuver this journey. I also used a medium once and it was a unique and powerful experience. I read books, I wrote journals, I talked to moms...anything that helped me get my head around the loss.
So very happy that Summer is working so hard on her addiction...and truly believe that Justin IS helping her from the other side. It is a thin veil.
Love you Deanie
Oh Deanie, I\'m finally getting some time to catch up on journals. I am so very happy that Summer is still on track with her healing and recovery. That is great news!
As far as mediums, we need to do what is going to bring us peace and comfort on this journey. I\'ve seen several mediums in the past 6 years, some are by far more gifted than others and had left me with a feeling of calming peace.
Back in 2010, a year after Jared passed, a psychic medium told me that Jared had 3 sisters and that the middle one would give me some trouble. He was right on the money with that. I then asked him if I would have any grandchildren. He said that I would have a grandson but not right away and that I had to be patient. He said he would be Jared\'s namesake and that somewhere around June 6 was a significant date. I never told this to my daughters and anyone else for that matter. Baby Jared was born June 7, 2015. I told Laura about this after the baby was born. It was truly uncanny.
So I believe there are spiritual mediums that are sincerely gifted and if they can bring us comfort at any level, it\'s a good thing.
Oh well, I went on too long with my story. I sure hope and pray that you are all doing fine and that Summer stays on the road of recovery.
Take care dear friend. I think of you often.
Sending positive thoughts, love and hugs,
Diane