Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
Am I crazy? I haven't heard from him in almost 2 weeks. Haven't responded to any of his texts in almost 2 months and haven't seen him in about 2 months. Why do I feel this ridiculous connection to him..it's like some sort of pull. I hate it. I don't feel the emotional distance that I should be feeling after all this time. He doesn't feel like a stranger. I wish he did. I wish he was becoming more and more of a memory, instead, I feel like he's just around the corner.
Damnit.
Damnit.
I want to weigh in with my 2 cents. I am now 118 day of No Contact with my qualifier (I consider him a drug). I tried cutting him out many times before this and I would always get myself 'hooked' into the love and pain cycle again.
I go through ups and downs feeling like you. At 100 days, it was very painful again. But I have been having less and less discomfort (getting through a VERY real withdrawal) , I am finding myself being able to enjoy much more of my time alone, and being more present in the company of family and friends. I am not having constant obsession anymore, that has lessened greatly. OH, and I noticed that I get especially crappy/doomed feeling before my period starts, so I am grateful for that awareness and try to tell myself that even though it feels like the end of the world, this feeling will pass.
It's an addiction and recovery comes in God's time, not mine. And addictions are tricksters. It's really important to be open and honest, that you for sharing, it helps all of us.
CREO wrote: "Truth is, even if all of this is true--that he loves me, that there is hope, that I know something about him/us; it doesn't matter because the relationship was killing me. If I succumbed to him/us, that is what I would be inviting back into my life." Just like a toxic addiction, it's so appealing, yet deadly.
Reading all of this on here helps me greatly, treating this like an addiction and being in active recovery helps me immensely too. I highly recommend SLAA in conjunction with support here.