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There was some heavy petting and hours and hours of making out and dry humping (you can laugh now), some oral sex (not much). BUt he NEVER took off his boxers. He hardly ever slept over. I questioned it a few times and he said he was in no hurry. He said he had brought over some condoms a few times but both times he said I didn't initiate so he didn't want to push it.
In hindsight, this is wierd, right? I mean, we had crazy chemistry, that was not the issue, that was never questionable. But after 3 months of making out liek animals and groping and freaken downright may as well have penetration - we never had intercourse.
Thoughts?
There was some heavy petting and hours and hours of making out and dry humping (you can laugh now), some oral sex (not much). BUt he NEVER took off his boxers. He hardly ever slept over. I questioned it a few times and he said he was in no hurry. He said he had brought over some condoms a few times but both times he said I didn't initiate so he didn't want to push it.
In hindsight, this is wierd, right? I mean, we had crazy chemistry, that was not the issue, that was never questionable. But after 3 months of making out liek animals and groping and freaken downright may as well have penetration - we never had intercourse.
Thoughts?
He said he feels liek I don't trust him, and that I'm dramatic and always require reassurance needlessly. um. NO. He was very passive aggressive about it in the end. I felt belittled. Yes, I started to feel insecure. That' ll happen when your brand new bf withdraws unjustifiabely and without warning.
I told him I'd liek to try again, without the drama, but that I woudl want him to support me, to understand that my stance on the sudden changes in our communication is different from his. He said he'd think about it.
I haven't heard from him since. Nor have I contacted him. That was last Tuesday - 10 days.
sooooooooooo, it's pretty safe to say that my intuition was right on.
Having sex as an issue between you in the beginning is too much. Had you told me that you hadn't had sex yet because he was a gentleman and super careful and it had all progressed much more slowly because of this (ie. no sleepovers, no daily this and that, no three day camping trip) then it could be quite nice and maybe even NORMAL but this....
No, I don't think so.