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SO... caught him texting suggestive stuff to some girl. of course she says they are just good friends. i told her if she knew he had a girlfriend then it was disrespectful to me as his girlfriend. here... ill post the conversation. just help me keep it real, cause when he gets back i have to leave.
here is a copy paste from the conversation.
me
This is his girlfriend of two years. We live together. I dont want any drama I just need to know. I know you have been texting each other suggestively. I have a daughter to take care of and have bern helping out with his bills since he has been gone.
her
we are just friends hunny. we joke around and laugh. he a homie nothing more we share commin intrests and stuff. and ask how one anothers day is.
me.
The reason why I ask in this awkward way is because he has hidden his friends And does not talk like that to me via text. Or even respond to me half the time. He is very secretive and ive caught him texting you saying it was ROTC. Even on his birthday when i took him out. So you can imagine why i would be apprehensive. I usually let things go but i dont like liars. And him telling another woman is sexy and that he would like to taste her and explore her body scars is insulting when im here making a home. In the two and a half years we have been together he does not just talk to anyone like that. I have never known him to talk like that but then again i dont usually check up.
her.
he meet me when i was working he was sweet and stuff but no he just sweet talk alot i thought that was just how he was then again i havent talk to him since he went onto duty.
me.
did you know he had a girlfriend?
her.
yahh i sweet talk with glen he an amazing friend of mine i look up to him and love to here about his army talk. i am not trying to get at him nor get with him. i enjoy his company and his friendship.yes he did. did he tell you i have a girlfriend. and im lesbian. im guessih not. but yahh no i dont want your man hunn. he is a close friend mine.i am off to work now. so if you got my number out his phone please dont text me i don want no more farther problems
me.
Its not a problem. Im just feeling disrespected by the both of you if you knew he had a girlfriend. I would never sweet talk someones partner out of respect for the relationship. And if you were such a good friend why hide you? Thats all im saying.
and that was the end of the conversation. im guessing she works at the mall down the road because he has been spending ample time there. and this was also the place he would say he would go when he was hiding his ex. I have to be done. if it was so innocent then he should have told me had met a new friend.
when i have friends i want them to know who my partner is. because im proud of the relationship.
i keep trying to justify my leaving even though i have more than enough reasons why. he has hit me, kicked my animals and broken my daughters things and hidden relationships from me. i cant keep doing this.
here is a copy paste from the conversation.
me
This is his girlfriend of two years. We live together. I dont want any drama I just need to know. I know you have been texting each other suggestively. I have a daughter to take care of and have bern helping out with his bills since he has been gone.
her
we are just friends hunny. we joke around and laugh. he a homie nothing more we share commin intrests and stuff. and ask how one anothers day is.
me.
The reason why I ask in this awkward way is because he has hidden his friends And does not talk like that to me via text. Or even respond to me half the time. He is very secretive and ive caught him texting you saying it was ROTC. Even on his birthday when i took him out. So you can imagine why i would be apprehensive. I usually let things go but i dont like liars. And him telling another woman is sexy and that he would like to taste her and explore her body scars is insulting when im here making a home. In the two and a half years we have been together he does not just talk to anyone like that. I have never known him to talk like that but then again i dont usually check up.
her.
he meet me when i was working he was sweet and stuff but no he just sweet talk alot i thought that was just how he was then again i havent talk to him since he went onto duty.
me.
did you know he had a girlfriend?
her.
yahh i sweet talk with glen he an amazing friend of mine i look up to him and love to here about his army talk. i am not trying to get at him nor get with him. i enjoy his company and his friendship.yes he did. did he tell you i have a girlfriend. and im lesbian. im guessih not. but yahh no i dont want your man hunn. he is a close friend mine.i am off to work now. so if you got my number out his phone please dont text me i don want no more farther problems
me.
Its not a problem. Im just feeling disrespected by the both of you if you knew he had a girlfriend. I would never sweet talk someones partner out of respect for the relationship. And if you were such a good friend why hide you? Thats all im saying.
and that was the end of the conversation. im guessing she works at the mall down the road because he has been spending ample time there. and this was also the place he would say he would go when he was hiding his ex. I have to be done. if it was so innocent then he should have told me had met a new friend.
when i have friends i want them to know who my partner is. because im proud of the relationship.
i keep trying to justify my leaving even though i have more than enough reasons why. he has hit me, kicked my animals and broken my daughters things and hidden relationships from me. i cant keep doing this.
what are you willing to do today toward untangling from this mess and leaving the house????? are you willing to stop talking to his girlfriends??? stop talking to his best friend b/c she is triggering you! every time you come back and feel victimized again. stop doing that to yourself. she is as unhealthy as he is. but you are not. you are going to get healthy for your daughter's sake. you have to leave him and his lesbian behind knowing that they are not healthy enough to be in your life.....you have standards now b/c you plan to heal your ptsd.
what are you willing to do today??