finally, huh? Yeah, I did about the same thing...put up with tons of crap and one day, just told him to choose his alcohol and bar or me. Guess what? He chose to keep drinking every day and night with his buddies...hope they keep him warm at night.

yep. sometimes a woman's just gotta tell it like it is. like it REALLY is. congrats.

Well, it was bound to happen sister. You got it out. Good for you!
Now what?

I love this. Getting to a point of strength and inner power. What a great empowering step for you! You are on your way.

Now nothing. I realized after I hit send, that I for teh first time, I wasn't reacting out of a need to get a reaction out of him. This was raw, it was real and honest and it served no purpose but to help me heal. I couldn't care less what he thinks. Chances are, he's thinking I'm a total nutjob and I need to get a grip..I just don't care.

I'm leaving for Florida in a couple of weeks with my son and family. I don't want to have to deal with any of this anymore. I want to move on and meet someone who's man enough to cherish me...and change the things about him that need changing. I can't do this anymore.

yes ladeesse, you said it. POWER.
It's exactly what I reclaimed when i hit send.
enough is enough

Miss, your post brought tears to my eyes. It is so inspiring and so amazing that you had your say AND more importantly that you are not attached to the outcome. Proud.

Miss, your post brought tears to my eyes. It is so inspiring and so amazing that you had your say AND more importantly that you are not attached to the outcome. Proud.

Creo, your post brought tears to MY eyes.
Thank you.
It won't be easy getting through the next little while..weeks, months maybe. I know I'll have setbacks.
But today I feel much much lighter having FINALLY had my say. Why didn't I think of it sooner?

So now he's been texting me nonstop, trying to defend everything i said to him.
I haven't answered.

I'm absolutely THRILLED for you! What a huge step! No, make that a GIANT LEAP!

Write down how this feels. Every little detail, and keep it near you. Take it to Florida. And if ever you feel sad or look back at the event with anything REMOTELY resembling melancholy, pop open that passage and bask in the glory of this moment -- this power -- all over again.

Hugs to you, Miss!

:) thank you Little.

LOL! Love it, love it, love it!

We're done being 'nice' girls . .. . we're women. Time to re-evaluate all those social conditioning beliefs embedded in our souls.

Don't answer. In fact, I took off my glasses so I couldn't see the texts, and then I deleted them as they arrived. One right after the other. I even put my glasses back on to write a text that explained what I was doing -- "systematic blind deletion" -- and that it was a waste of his time and energy to continue harassing me. Then he tried calling (I didn't pick up nor listen to his messages; deleted them too). Then he haunted Linked In and still does occasionally. Finally, I've had some peace for a few weeks now. Prepare yourself. Brace yourself. Gird your loins, so to speak. This guy may keep trying and I implore you to not read them and to delete them asap.

I state what I do above because sometimes it gets worse before it gets better. Narcissists don't like a power shift, and many will do whatever they can to regain their sense of control. That has been my experience. 'May the force be with you,' to borrow a phrase.

I need that force so badly!
I know he'll keep trying. It has been a trend for him.

I'm just so utterly offended by him. I even told him at one point during our interraction earlier. I said 'if someone asks you to eat shit, will you do it? ya, me neither.' He's so THICK.

I know I'm feeling the power now, it's still fresh, but i am dreading the plunge into despair..sadness, nostalgia. Need to get through those moments. sigh..