Just tell him flat out your done and don't care what bs he has to offer. Let him know anything further he sends will be deleted and have a nice life. That's it. Flat out. I am glad you were able to get a lot off your chest earlier. Feels great doesn't it? No matter what he says to defends something it doesn't matter. Good for you!!

You kicked buttinski. Remember this. And because you know he'll keep trying, as did my ex-bf, you probably know how his actions can play with your mind. That's why I'm encouraging you not to read or listen to his stuff. I fear it will only draw you back in at some point. There will be a word, a phrase, something that will hit a button, fire a trigger, and you might/will feel compelled to respond, which is what he wants. Thus, my hope that you will not engage in even reading his texts nor listening to his messages.

But I know it's a process, and it takes time. (It felt like it took me FOREVER to finally stop allowing myself to be drawn in by my N! Actually, it DID take me forever! Ugh.) Just know I'm rooting for you, Miss. Really, it was awesome, and I think it helped that you had been away from him for a bit. Space/distance can be a great clearer of the mind and sharpener of the sword. Forgive the weaponry reference, but sometimes I think it takes nothing less than a sword to free oneself from a narcissist's web.

It is a process. I've been through this with him, but this is teh first time I said EXACTLY what I felt. It feels great. He went into shock. I don't care, I didn't engage. He said things to try to get me to argue...I ignored. Still...I'm so afraid of what's in store for me. I have caved in the past and I'm sure he's counting on it now again. I could just picture that smug look on his face...anticipating history to repeat itself. It makes me sick.

Stay strong. You made your stance. May be a good time to block him and go No Contact. Thinking of you!

Stay strong. You made your stance. May be a good time to block him and go No Contact. Thinking of you!

Thank you babe..you have been an inspiration to me. xo

Day 2. I'm ok. I'm not sure if I'm REALLY good or just trying to convince myself that I am. Anyone experience that with break-ups? I find myself trying to battle good thoughts of him, it's exhausting. I actively insert rotten things he's done to me into my mind. I'm hoping that one day it'll just come naturally to dislike him. Or just not give a shit. I know it takes time.
here's something I've noticed and I'm curious to know if any of you share this experience. When I wake up in teh morning, or after a nap even, The first half hour to an hour, I'm completely numb to the anxiety that surrounds my relationship with M. I feel happy. There is no desire to see him, hear from him. For a few fleeting moments, he is a distant memory and I feel as though I have moved on and he doesn't affect me. As the day goes on, it's almost like my brain absorbs all teh tiny particles of my addiction to him and I become totally dependant on thinking and obsessing over him.
Today I'm good. Right now I'm good. But there is no telling when I will suddenly plummet to a point of no turning back. That is usually when I start to bargain with myself about why I SHOULD send him a harmless little text. we all know how detrimental that tiny window could be to the process of healing and moving on. It's so hard. So SO hard.

miss I just have to say how much your story has helped me. I spent a few years with a guy that kinda showed up once in awhile. i let him spoonfeed me so much garbage. and finally 1 day, just like you, I had had enough. I responded to one of his smarmy emails by really letting him have it. that was the correct course of action for someone thats been taken advantage of. I fatal blow to all the bullshit. it's been a few months and I still think about him but it doesn't hurt nearly as much and a lot of times I find that I'm not thinking about him at all anymore. I'm getting to the point where I have so much more peace in my life. so are you. thank you for sharing your story. love and support

So blessed. Thank you swelsha ♥ . Strong beautiful women like you really validate my decision to stop the nonsense.