Have fun! Be careful.

Yup. Careful. Sigh...i'll try. Thanks speedy

Have fun and trust your gut. I met my current SO on that site, but I had to weed out a few losers in the process! Be safe and enjoy!!

As long as he's a SO and not a SOB, all is well!
Sounds like you had some luck Peggs.
Internet dating is totally and utterly terrifying to me (not fear as in, creepy, fear as in the unknown and maybe just 'oh God, I do not want to be here in this Starbucks being polite.'). I admire those who can do it. I need to meet someone face to face with a connection that is there or not.

yes have fun..... I dated a few men on POF they all ended up being the same dead end... but I was still wanting the dork at the time... it is good practice if nothing else good luck

It's more like practice for me. No real expectations

I like it. Practice. Good for you, Miss.

Be safe have fun above all and will be here to see how it went :)

@ miss, i'm not challenging you but I'm purely curious as to why you think "it's time"?
Do you think it is time really? Consider your marriage followed by another unsatisfying relationship. You have so much to offer but is this really the time?

i think it is ok... i did it for a while before I was more ready than I am now and I am still not ready... but you learn a lot.... i posted on another post some things that I experienced if I can find it I will post them here... other wise if you want to look for it you can do that... just things like sit back and listen to them see if you like them instead of trying to get them to like you, be yourself.... listn to your gut... etc.. : )

I don't know Creo. What I do know is that i don't know how to be in a healthy relationship. I do not know how to treat myself right. I'm not ready to be in a relatiinship but i need to learn how to relate to people who are genuinely nice. Im chatting with a few guys who i would normally overlook because they seem too blah. Trying to get a feel of what a normal nice man is. Not a bad boy. Like i said, im practicing.
But you're right, im far from ready for anything new. Plus it wouldnt be fair to anyone since i'm still thinking about fckface. I hate it.

Here is the stuff I posted earlier..

I went on a few dates... all of the men drank a lot... i knew within 3 dates if i liked them or not. one guy called his sister where i worked and had her track me down instead of waiting for me to call that was creepy. i text one guy on the way to the date at applebees that i wouldn't have sex with him until we liked each other, he didnt text back all during the date he looked around the room and at his phone he took one phone call, on the way home he texted me that he just saw my text about not having sex i never heard from him again... a couple time i just talked on the phone explained I wasn't into casual dating cause I knew it meant basically just having sex no commitment (never heard from them), one guy said shh to me cause I talked when he was doing something in his garage, i let that slide, went golfing and out a few times, the last date i went and met his daughter, we met at DQ and I rode on his motorcycle to her inlaws cabin, he critisized my shorts that I had on cause they had a tiny hole and a little paint on them.I went to the cabin but did not see him by my choice after that when he asked why, i didn't get into detail just said i wasn't ready or into him or whatever. one guy got mad cause i didnt answer my phone (i was taking a nap) he left a message if you snooze u loose ... i called and left a message why i didnt answer (never heard from him again) wrote him a letter (old behavior) never heard from him... be honest and true and the icks will fall through the cracks... one guy just got a dui for the 3rd time told me right away... i went on a couple dates... he had to breath into a thing to get his truck to start and was still drinking even though he had classes and would go to jail if he got caught drinking... i ended that he couldn't understand why... i didnt explain just said it wasnt working for me.... these are just a few examples. im not trying to write a book or tell you how to date.... just do it different than the old you, find what works for you.... none of the meetings/greetings worked out for me but i wasnt ready any how, but I learned a lot about what I want by seeing and not doing what I don't want... good luck... if you meet someone awesome then you are more ready than you thought. dont settle... most of the dates I had they would have settled for me just to have someone - anyone- i wasnt and am not ready cause i compare everyone to the jackass i am in love or obsessed with... i don't want to be with someone I like more than they like me or have them like me more than I like them.... so wil just wait for a mutual like that leads to love both sided... : )

Exactly, see if i like them. Ive spent too much energy trying to get men to like me. What a waste.

The thing I feel for myself is that if an unhealthy man came into my line of vision, I would still not only attract but want the guy. I have some anxiety around men right now. I know that I still need too much and that alone is the way I will figure this void in myself. I'm making progress but I'm not there yet.

I just wanted to add that I feel like I have been tested a few times lately. I have had a couple of men over the past few weeks who are single be in my space--as in, there is an opportunity to connect and have authentic, quality conversation or activity and I have noticed in myself that I return very quickly to a pattern of trying to 'get' the guy. I'm good at it generally. Subtle, not overpowering and it's actually more an intellectual seduction than physical (so, so clever) but it's the thinking and strategizing around it that is the addiction. I am also still, in the cases I am thinking of, not really thinking they are good potential partners but they are attractive and available and that's about it. I'll give a specific example--I attend a salsa class that I used to go to for years but didn't for the duration of my past relationship. I am out of practice. My instructor (another man I flirted with and ended up having a little thing with between bf's three years ago) is a friend and is catching me up in a private class because no one else joined that time. Last week, a good looking guy was there (my type but likely about 10 years younger than I am and God only knows his story). I spent at least part of the class trying to figure out if he were single and just checking out if there was any energy between us. YUCK. YUCK. YUCK. It was a big signal to me that I am not ready. I am not letting something good, of quality, just come to me in due time. It is the first time that I actually was even looking at guys since my ex and I broke up four months ago but for God's sake. It has happened with two other men now in the past week--they are all younger (I am not typically attracted to younger men, I do NOT want to be the older woman for whatever reason) and really lovely and good-looking but two of three are likely unsuitable, the other one I know nothing about.
The point is: discernment. I lack it right now. I don't have it. I need to gain back my self-confidence (by myself this time, not because a man tells me I'm okay/attractive/amazing/worthy) without getting my ego wrapped up in attracting someone or keeping their attention or even giving them mine.
A BIG UPHILL battle for me and one I feel I am just beginning because this week is honestly the first time that I actually feel single. So now the work begins. Now the challenges are before me. Now the patterns must be changed. The rest was fantasy because I wasn't emotionally 'single'.