Awe.....he wonders if you are ok.....Yeah, I get that one too. I think it translates to "now I want to contact YOU and you aren't playing anymore ??" Keep up the great work !! How does it make you feel ??

Good for you for having such a great day AND leaving your phone at home !!

You all give me strength....all of you.

I feel very confused. And pissed. and elated. it's such a wierd mix of emotions.
I was doing so well and he had to go and screw it all up. He texted me again and called once since I got home. I don't know what to do. I feel empowered but very weak at the same time because I so want to answer.
His last msg to me was an invitation for me and my son to go parading with him in little Italy since we won the game. He's so full of sh*t because he knows my son goes to bed in an hour. UGH!

Well, I think he's bored and wants to play.....and it will be playing with your emotions......And I don't think you want to play his game. I was hoping you would say it made you feel empowered....that's the exact word.

Enjoy that feeling because you are in charge of you. He's trying to get HIS way right now. You know what's best for you and giving in to his wants is not what you need. Where is he when you want him ?? He's no where and can't answer you right ?

Another emotional sniper at large! Chist almighty!!! You poor thing.

Since you son is safely in your keep, is there anyway you could take your phone battery out tonight? Just so you can breathe?

Just a thought.

'your'

I can do that. I just don't know what good that will do. It'll entice him to continue. I freaken hate this because I feel like I'm backed into a wall right now. He's in panic mode. he'll pull out all teh stops and I'm afraid he'll get to me. He already is. :(

oh God guys, he just pulled up out front. Jesus Christ!!!

I am confused with your reply that you don't know what good it would do. Perhaps I'm too far from NC to understand your wanting to know if he is contacting you.

I will take a step back on this one.

I don't understand what you mean Little. Wanting to know IF he is contacting me?
What am I missing?

He just drove away. He rang my doorbell a few times and called and now just left. He's never gone this far as to just show up. Then again, I never stood my ground as much as I have today..

I'm way out in left field on this one, Missmom. Honestly, trust me on this, I am the one who is confused! And my post reflects my confusion. Try to dismiss it, for I know it does not apply to your situation. I could only imagine not taking the battery out or turning off the phone as something productive. . . a means to protect yourself from the pings and rings of his contact tonight. So I was confused as to why it wouldn't do any good. Then I realized there's obviously something I'm not understanding, and as a participant on this site, I knew my lack of understanding was a cue that it was my time to exit!

Others are MUCH BETTER equipped to help at this point. So I'm stepping back AND apologizing. I'm sorry to add to your angst tonight. I truly am. :/

I hope it all goes well!

well if you decide to contact him get some of that confusion cleared up by asking him all those questions you have

oh no no no no no. Please don't exit :(
You are absolutely right, it woudl help me tonight. I'm just imagining how he'd react and given that he has already shown up here, I'm afraid it will fuel him to come on even stronger which will in turn weaken me. I know him and I know myself, more importantly. I feel liek I shoudl face him somehow but I have to remain in a strong place, which I'm not ready for. So yeah, I think you're idea would at least hold me over for tonight and hopefully I will wake up with more strength.

Please continue to contribute to this thread, I didn't mean to offend you. :(

It's a process....hang in there.

Hi, just stepping in now but I get what you mean about it not helping because you know he will keep texting, then calling, then showing up. I guess all three happened.

I think I would text him back and you have a choice at this point.
One--to keep it going
Two--to say something like, "I'm fine. I didn't respond because I have had some perspective around how unhealthy this relationship is for me and my life."
I don't really have a closing line because I am not sure that you are ready to say, "I'm moving on." It just seems like a big game.

What do you think?

I like creo's advice. It gives him the eye opening deal that you mean business either way.