to me, anal sex is for "the one"...but thats bec i was/am so freaked out by it. i am very open minded and have tried many things, including anal sex. but it wasnt something iw ould just give to anyone. it requires a great deal of patience (taking yoru time or OUCH) but also a degree of trust. we all know what comes out of there and shoving somehting in there doesnt mean its coming out clean...get my drift. so of course you want to trust who you are doing it with.

there are many reasons people love it. for me, i only rather have my assed played with. my hubby can do whatever he wants down there, just dont go shoving anything more than an fingertip in it. this might satisfy your bf...but fair is fair...you should get to try on him too.

for the men who kept pressuring me to go for it, id say "let me shove a dildo up your ass and then you can mine." this usually would shut them up.

and lets face if, if its a deal breaker for your bf then you sooo dont need him. and if he cant take no then you dont need that/him either.

it does feel great to be played with. anal sex was fun the few times i tried, but its not my cup of tea.

i have many friends who love it and do it often...its just part of the sex life vs. something special.

to each their own.
good luck

I agree with her.Something I don't care for but it does happens sometimes.It something you have to work at because it does hurt.

actually, Sapphire, i DID tell him exactly what you said! LOL! i grabbed my dildo and shoved in his ass! HA!! and he actually seemed to like it, but now every time i bring it up for him to try it again, he won't let me do it again. so we haven't had anal sex since then either. LOL. basically, i see it the way you do, if i'm gonna get something put in my ass 9other than a finger tip) then he gotta get something put up his ass too! ha haa!

but yes, i do enjoy it getting played with, he's even licked me down there and it felt pretty darn good.

we are still together 3 years later, and ever since the dildo experience he has backed off the anal sex question. but every time he does bring it up, i just say the same thing, "well, let me go get my dildo to put in your ass and then we can have anal sex." actually, i even took him to look at strap-ons si i could shove one in his butt like i'm screwing him. he got pissed off and said guys don't do it like that. LMAO!

I think as far as anal sex, the only person that enjoys that is the guy, because its so tight on his cock, it hurts like hell. I did it once and never again I didn't get any joy out of it, playing around down there with a finger is fine, but thats it.
I always think of that being something Gay men like and do, so I would tell him if thats what you want go find a boyfriend, and Iam not knocking gays let me make that clear I do not judge people, but we all know what guys do.
Theres all kinds of things you can do to spice things up without doing that. I would say NOPE, don't like it, hit the road!!!!!!!!!!!! I've been through to much shit, to do any thing for anyone unless I want to. thats how I look at it. LOL

for me, a finger is fine with me but i do have a very small toy just for that and it is about the size of a finger so all is good there. my hub loves it but he only gets it once every few years, lol. i think that is mostly for men anyway, like angel said, its tight on their cock and thats why they like it, and for us it hurts pretty bad unless you like that sort of thing, which some women do. not every man is into it, a lot say they would never do that. my hub doesnt ask for it very often at all because he knows how i feel about it. but it does take a while for a man to stop asking for it. if he doesnt respect you enough to respect what your feelings are then hes not worth your time.

bluesun, you crack me up!!! i havec showed my husband the strap on asile too. lol. but he doesnt care so much about it. we both say the play is fine and tahts all we need. licking is great...play is fine. smiiles

bluesun, you crack me up!!! i havec showed my husband the strap on asile too. lol. but he doesnt care so much about it. we both say the play is fine and tahts all we need. licking is great...play is fine. smiiles

Hell no, asses were'nt designed for fuckin

I'm going to be the odd woman out. I have tried it and actually liked it. One thing that helps is if you use an oil (synthetic) based instead of water based lube.

ya, Melin, we used the lube that one time. i still don't care for it. no pleasure in it.

WELL ..... LET ME ELABORATE HERE A BIT ... I LOVE THE THOUGHT OF SHOVING A " DILDO" IN SOME GUYS ASSHOLE, JUST FOR SHITS AND GIGGLES !! SEE HOW HE LIKES IT LOL ...
A FINGER AND A LICKING FEELS "REAL" GOOD, I HAVE TRIED ANAL SEX ONCE, WITH MY FIRST HUSBAND, HE WAS A FREAK IN BED, AND WANTED TO TRY IT ALL .... IT WAS A BIT UNCOMFORTABLE, BUT IT WAS OKAY I GUESS, NOT REALLY MY CUP OF TEA EITHER, AND THAT WAS ABOUT 20 YEARS AGO ..... I THINK IF TWO PEOPLE ARE COOL WITH IT, GO FOR IT, BUT TO PRESSURE ONE INTO IT, IS SELFISH, AND DE-MEANING ..... I HAVE TO SAY THE SUGGESTION OF SHOVING A " DILDO " UP HIS ASS IS PRICELESS !!! TOOK THE WIND OUT OF HIS SAILS, I BET !! LOL .....

bluesun I loved your answer!! As I see it that is the out door not an in door!!! And I will never let any man use it!! Or anything else use it!!

I agree somethings should be an exit not a entry!!

WELL I HAVE BEEN MARRIED 5 YEARS AND MY HUSBAND ASKS FOR THAT ALOT AND I AM JUST NOT COMFORTABLE WITH THE IDEA. I DID GIVE IN ONCE AND DIDNT LIKE IT AT ALL AND WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN. HOWEVER WHEN YOU ARE IN LOVE IT IS REALLY UP TO THE INDIVIDUAL.

Whats love got to with it,~~~as Tina Turner would say. Besides, later on in life you'll have medical problem.