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Letting Go

bears
bears

so the past week I have let go...


1) no nagging


2) no controlling over alcohol consumption


3) no fighting


4) No anxiety over his drinking


we had had a better week because of this


and then tonight happened...


for the fifth night in a row he Is beyond drunk.  I couldn’t take it anymore and i stupidly starting quizzing him on why he has to do this to himself?


Ended by him storming off and him avoiding as usual.  And me feeling empty and sad.


What do I do?  Go on pretending everythings fine and let him drink himself into oblivion.  So exhausted having this parent child relationship.

pietro84
pietro84
"This is how it always happens"

So....to get beyond that....what would be TWO best-case scenarios for a future that is different so you don't have to think about it constantly?
endlessgrief
endlessgrief
Holy crap are we all married to the same man?
maries1978
maries1978
Wow...my emotions are all over the place reading all these posts. I dont know if i feel comfort knowing i am not alone in this battle or discouraged that maybe it will never change. My husband and i have been married less then 6 months. He fell off the wagon 2 months into our marriage and it has just escalated beyond control. I too have tried sympathizing, compromising, nagging, shutting down, talking until i am blue in the face, begging, crying, pleading all to no avail. He will either make false promises or he will justify his behavior however is suitable for him and when i continue to push the issue he gets angry. When its all done for him he expects it to be swept under the carpet. I was not built to sweep things under the carpet. This has become so heavy for me i dont know how much longer i can carry this. I love him but the alcoholism consumes him. Is there hope or is it a lost cause???
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