I feel like this all the time. I almost feel like it's a form of ptsd. I know when he's drunk, best case scenario is he will annoy me. Worst is a fight. I don't mean he hits me, he doesn't. I'd like to believe I'd draw my line there. He does get enraged, has broken things and just gets nasty.
While I can't say it always works, there are a few things I do. First I try to get him to eat. If you think it's gonna get bad try making his favorite meal. That often puts him to sleep. The other thing I do is save some household chores for when he's starting to get in that mood. It keeps my mind occupied and gives me a valid reason to stay away from him. But, I stay anxious until he's asleep. You are definitely not alone on this.
I'd love to hear what strategies some of the other women here have tried.
Take a deep breath, this day will pass. Prayers and hugs.

That feeling of anxiety is SO valid. I worry all the time when my AH is binge drinking: who he is with, what he is doing, will he start a fight? Mine loves to accuse me of cheating and degrade me. Sometimes the emotional abuse can be just as hurtful as physical abuse.

Like the woman above, I ignore him and try to do some household chores, online shop, go upstairs and watch tv, anything to distance myself from him. I've learned not to argue back when he's drunk, because most of the time he's just looking for a reaction. Ignoring him and not saying a word doesn't give him the satisfaction of a reaction.

God bless, and good luck.

Very smart. Never argue with a drunk. They will not understand your point and it can only escalate an already bad situation. It takes incredible strength sometimes to bite your tongue, but those words are best saved for a sober moment.

You're not alone. Everything you mentioned happens to me as well. When he's on a night binge I can't sleep properly b/c I'm worried about all the worst case scenarios- drunk driving, jail, and death.

I have tried to reach out to other people and talk to them about what is happening b/c it's too much to face alone. Today is my first day on this forum and I think it will be really helpful going forward.

I used to try and hold his secret but that didn't help him or me. Opening up has been a great decision. I also try to find other things to do with my time like the other women mentioned.

It's so much trial and error in the process but I guess that's life. My new strategy is for him to go the doctor and see if his kidneys and lungs are healthy (he is also addicted to cigarettes). Hopefully that will have some shock value.

I've learned that this is a disease and that he needs help. At the end of the day he needs to take the initiative himself, but he has made so much progress in the last three years b/c I started to help him. Prior to that I thought he could do it himself like anyone else but he couldn't. I had never experienced anything like it in my life, prior to meeting him.

I'm married him knowing he had this problem and I am going to do my best to honor my commitment. It is perhaps the greatest challenge of my life.

I think people need to talk about mental illness/addiction more and stop trying to pretend it doesn't exist. There are so many people suffering and are ashamed to talk about it.