Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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anna25 02/02/2015

How old were you when you lost your spouse?

triquetra 02/03/2015

54, but some days I feel as though it could be 95

Sadfire 02/03/2015

I was 37 and he died on his 39th birthday.

sndpypr 02/03/2015

I was 63 and he had just turned 66 three months before he died.

mannie123 02/03/2015

I was 54. My 55th birthday was one week after he died. Dan was 49... he was so looking forward to a big celebration for his 50th birthday that he missed by 3 months.

dschwartz 02/03/2015

cliffskat 02/03/2015

You seem to be really stressed by this issue - age at widowhood. Why??? You seem to be looking for some kind of information or affirmation or something. What is it??

I was 50, Cliff was 55. I remarried at 53, my new husband is two years younger than me, and he was widowered at 47.

It can happen to anyone at anytime. Just as love and remarriage can happen to anyone at anytime. Not all surprises in life are bad surprises.

Coming here I learned I was not the only one. It seemed that way in my real life because there were no widows in my circle of friends and colleagues, including among those several years older than myself. The understanding and compassion I have found here at DS knows no age boundaries, and I have received just as much wonderful support over the years from young and old, straight or gay, married or engaged or none of the above. Both love and grief are universal.....

I wonder what has triggered this question for you again?? Can we help you with it??

Love and Hugs,
Martha