Please don't go down that road. No, you do not need a medium. It's only been six weeks for me, but I believe in God. I believe that God put us on this path for a reason. My husband died due to an illness. That I guess was his destiny, because I do not believe that God "gives" illnesses. So, for some unknown reason we are here. We have to "learn" how to go forward. I, too, cry all the time! Today I made the decision that I was going to try to get a handle on that and move forward. There is absolutely nothing any of us can do to bring back our loved one -- and our loved one would not want us living this way. We really have to work very hard on a day by day basis. I guess we start with baby steps and we work toward running a marathon. I don't know when I became an expert, because I am not, but it is so painful to have lost him and it is also painful realizing that so many others are in the same position I am. I am so sorry for all of us, but we have to go on. So, we have to make plans, set goals, go forward. Take care.

The bible tells us that we must test the spirits. You believe your husband is in Heaven. That means he was a good man. Yet, if you go to a psychic(one that is acutally capable of calling forth spirits), the spirit she calls may not be your husband. Your faith must be strong now, to get through this. Many people tell me I'm so strong. Some, I know believe that I didn't love my husband. Neither are true. I just believe completely that my husband is alive and in Heaven. He's there by the blood of Christ. To say my husband is dead, to mourn him, to feel hopeless--is the same as saying I'm not a believer. This is the reason I don't visit graves--my husband is in heaven and has a new body. His soul is not in the one that he inhabited on earth.

Marie, assume two things when it comes to psychics: They are phony or they are capable of calling forth spirits, some evil.

Please turn to God.


1 John 4:1-6 (King James Version)

1 John 4
1Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world.

2Hereby know ye the Spirit of God: Every spirit that confesseth that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is of God:

3And every spirit that confesseth not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is not of God: and this is that spirit of antichrist, whereof ye have heard that it should come; and even now already is it in the world.

4Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.

5They are of the world: therefore speak they of the world, and the world heareth them.

6We are of God: he that knoweth God heareth us; he that is not of God heareth not us. Hereby know we the spirit of truth, and the spirit of error.

Beware of letting yourself open to spirits. Mediums masquerade as 'helfpful' types and deceive the sad and lonely, take your money, play with your loss and open you to the influence of evil spirits. Trust only in the One true God and His Holy Spirit.

I'm so sorry for your pain, but I truly don't think a medium will do anything to make it any less. Grief takes time. Sad statement but true. Ten months is a good start on surviving, you've gone through a lot of firsts and survived, right? Tears are normal and are the way you release the pain and tension, so let them flow. I really don't mean to minimize your pain, I know how consuming it is. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and rest when you can't go any further. It's going to be all right, and you are all right. Sharon

I find the mediums I've seen on TV entertaining but wouldn't seek that out personally. I think it may be possible for there to be some legitimate ones but most are fakes. If they are for real, like others have said, you don't know who the spirit is that they're contacting. If it were me I'd seek out other avenues. I'd see my dr. if I thought medication may be an option, grief counseling, a grief group, church, local widows group, etc. I personally took a mild anti-depressant for a year and a half which took the edge off but was no cure-all - still had to do the work myself. Medicine's a personal issue though. I took short trips with girlfriends and that worked wonders just to have a change of scenery and be around those crazy women. What works for one may not work for another. Hang in there, the pain does begin to ease. We're here for you. Take care.

Marie, I am sorry for your anguish.

I believe you have more of the answers to your questions in your heart than any medium can feed you.

The pathway for the widow/widowers is wide so we may walk arm in arm. Today, i wish you peace.

Only if you want to open a door for evil spirits to decieve you and take advantage of you and steel your money.

I know it hurts right now, but honestly it is best if you lean into God to see you through and comfort you.

Dearest Marie,
I am sorry for your anguish. I also sorry to hear that you got so many responses that "chided" you to go to their god or that sounded like "ewww, run get your bible".
We all believe in different levels of spirituality. It is not so strange for those who say there is for certain an "afterlife" and "holy spirits" and "the devil" to caste about for a link to all those things in the netherworld. Do not feel judged. However, it has come to pass for many of those here, that they have perhaps found only false hopes in mediums and the like. Mediums often pray on our vulnerabilities and hopes. Please be careful, and try to stay away from those who want our money....
Please know that we all come in peace and want very much for you to find your own peace. I do not know that any of us ever find "closure" and that I might not want to forever close the door on my husand.
10 months is not that long.
Hugs!

Marie, these friends are not chiding you. They are giving sound advice. Scripture says: "I am the WAY, the TRUTH, and the LIFE" - God will help you through this, but you have to ASK HIM and you have to WANT TO GET THROUGH IT. Decide that with His strength you can make it; that your days won't be total tears and anguish. We have to accept that our loved one is gone, he won't be back on this earth, and it's up to us to go forward a little each day toward our new life -- a changed one to be sure. There is no charge for saying prayers. There are support groups, grief counselors and others who help people cope with times like this. Please consider trying this route. Wishing you peace.
Doye

Take the money and play the lottery. You never know, you just might win,

Hi Marie, I do understand you miss him, I think we all share those intense feelings. It sounds as if your mate was lost suddenly. Mine too. David tried to stand up and that was all, I believe he was gone before he hit the floor. I could do nothing to help him even though I tried.
Something that really helped me was to begin a journal. I wrote/write to him. I told him what happened, how I felt about it. I poured my heart out and still do. I write these entries as if he'll read them someday. This really is helping me get through.
A medium can not 'channel' your husband. Your beloved is sleeping in death, waiting for the resurrection. You seem like a Bible reader, maybe you've noticed these Scriptures...
Eccl. 9:5: The living are conscious that they will die; but as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all.
1 Thes. 4:13Moreover, brothers, we do not want YOU to be ignorant concerning those who are sleeping [in death]; that YOU may not sorrow just as the rest also do who have no hope. 14For if our faith is that Jesus died and rose again, so, too, those who have fallen asleep [in death]......

Deuteronomy 18:9-11 will give you God's viewpoint on consulting mediums, and I encourage you to read it. Then pour your heart out to God in prayer. He will help us if we ask.

Marie, you were closer to your husband than anyone. Why would he want you to pay a stranger money to get in contact with him? If you look at it that way, you will see it doesn't really make sense.

I think you know what happened, instead the question is "why?" He fell, the accident's effects are what caused his death. Sometimes there are no easy answers to "why me? why him? why us?" You need to move beyond the why questions for now and work instead on "how" questions. "How do I heal from this?" "How do I make my life better and honor his memory?" The why questions will be answered later, perhaps much later. You need to ask a different question now.

If your grief group helping at all? Have you considered medication? I hate to see you in so much pain.

I don't think seeking out a medium would help you. I think your questions cannot be answered that way. I think you need a different approach to what you're feeling and how to go through it.

I will keep you in my prayers. Love and Hugs, Martha

Marie;
I have thought the same thing but I feel too vunerable right now. I have had a card reader once who tryied to take me for money by selling candles to rid a curse. She was later busted for bilking an elderly widow. This was years ago and now I am an elderly, 58, widow. I am not past anything though. I have recently been reading up on near death experiences to find comfort that Rob is ok. From what I have read he is better than ok. I don't really know, of course no one does, if he could communicate with me now or if he'd find the need to. Right now I feel like I would be disturbing him in some way and it is too soon. Don't have any moral issues it but err on the side of caution. It is easy to be led around by others when you are looking for answers. Some times there is no answers until your own heart finds one. It all is just hard to go through. Hug, Donna

A medium helped me immensely after my mother passed. I just had so many issues that needed to rest, and they couldn't unless I had answers for closure. As for my husband, I don't need the services of a medium. What could he possibly tell me that I don't already know? And, what could my husband say that we haven't already discussed? He can tell me what he wants me to do, but he already knows that I always did what I wanted (within reason) anyway.

If you really desire the services of a medium, please email me through dailystrength and I will give you the website of a reputable one. The two times I used his services, my reading was performed via telephone.

I had a friend who was looking for a job about 15 years ago. She interviewed for a number of positions, including telephone operator, telemarketer, and psychic. She interviewed the same on each of the jobs and the psychic one did not test her skills. She was just hired and handed a script.