Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
It seems as if every week now somebody gets angry and leaves this group. I have been a member for over a year now, and personally find this a very helpful, supportive, understanding group of people, for the most part. Most of us try hard to be respectful in expressing our many and varied opinions, and to be non-judgmental. We are all handling our grief just a little bit differently, have different circumstances in our lives, etc. so it is inevitable that we are not all going to agree on everything. We also have a bunch of things in common, and just when one of us thinks we are all alone, we find someone else is having the same problem. Please, people, don't leave just because you don't always hear what you want to hear. Accept the comments for what they are, take what works for you, learn from the ones that are different. But please don't just leave! laurabp
Daily Strength is a wonderful venue to express our hurt, ask for help, offer insights from our own experiences, visit and enjoy the online company of others while the rest of the "world of couples" are out enjoying themselves, let our hearts grow in sensitivity to the all too familiar pain we read about in the posts, be assured that nothing ever stays the sameeven the rage of sorrow, and a myriad of other seen and unseen benefits of a site designed for the seemingly forgotten and always the walking wounded.
My focus will continue to be on the positive aspects of this site (and there are too many to count); I dismiss the others as not being worth my while to ponder. TJ
This is a wonderful place for insight, support, encouragement and knowledge to be gained. Personally I love to hear a dozen different angles on any given topic, but there can be confrontation when opposing ideas are offered with a heavy hand or a poor choice of words, or offence is taken, or if the subject is confronting as we are all battling in our hearts and minds with new territory, slamming even our own preconcieved ideas, on this the most cruel of journeys which none of us wants to be on.
Let us at least offer love and not judgement, and forgive and move on.
Like anything, I suppose, we can take need, and give what we can, and let go of the rest. Each person lets go in different ways, it seems. Perhaps the key is to look for all of our similarities rather than differences as we walk this new journey in our lives.
lespreludes