I'm not so concerned that people leave. I'm sure there are many reasons to move on.

What really bothers me is that they have to post to God and everyone that they're leaving.

There are days and posts which I am better off staying out of here. It's nobody's fault. It's just that I'm not in a good place at the time.

I sure don't blame everybody else.

My advice to them? If you don't want to read it, go somewhere else. We've got enough grief without yours.

peace :)

Laura: I have been a member almost as long as you. I remember adding my 2 cents in and I was insulted. I still read the posts every day but it is very rare that I post.

Being here a very short while, this site and the people here have been such a blessing and comfort to me. I'm at 7 weeks and don't think I would have made this far without everyone's support. The days I'm feeling so down and lost, I know I can come here and get the support and understanding of those who have been, and are, in my shoes. Thank you all so much and God Bless.
Pam

Sharing your emotions and reading other peoples emotions is not for everyone. People get angry and state they are leaving out of anger because all of us here are in a vunerable emotional state with our last nerve very close to the surface. There are those who leave because their need has been filled. There are those who delete their profile and disappear, leaving those who cared in wonder. A person handles their involvement here on their own personal level. I appreciate someone who just says I'm taking a break from DS just to let you know.
This site has taught me a lot of things about the grief process. I read postings from people who after years are grieveing like yesterday and then posts from those who after a few months are moving on...and then from most of us in between. It all gives me food for thought and inspiration.
To any that leave I always offer my best wishes for peace and happiness.

I'm not going any where. This sight has been very helpful to me and I need the continued support too.

Linnisocial is right, we are all on our last nerves sometimes and we tend to say things that we don't mean. I guess we need to take it for what it is. Grief. I hope it passes, I am saying things and doing things even off of here that are not in my nature at all, it kinda scares me a little bit.

Ours is a common bond....grief......and I love the fact that various opinions and beliefs are shared..........we're like a tapestry .........the more intricte the pattern the prettier the picture...........
L

This entire website is a lifeline for me. I am so glad I found it! I feel bad for people who have to lash out or express themselves in inappropriate ways, for when they respond in that way they are not able to share in the mutual support process from which many of us here benefit. We should ignore negative reactions, because the positive far outweigh them. However, I understand needing to take a break also. I read here often, but do not often feel up to participating. My involvement depends on how I feel at the moment and whether I have any ideas worth sharing. I hope this website exists in this free format for many yeats to come! [[[HUGS to all]]] Patti

Well, I dont care if you like me or not, you're stuck with me!

I came into this site late (meaning I was past a year). However, I was completely caught off guard at how pertinent the posts still were to me. Like I said before I finally felt plugged in to where I needed to be. Trust me, my family is grateful I found this site also.

So, what is that ignore button for? Please dont use it on me, it would really hurt my feelings.

I found this site at 2 yrs. and it has given me a lot of peace of mind. No one around me understands and I have found DS friends who do. It has meant so much to me. We are on an emotional roller coaster and what we may find irritating one day isn't the next. Even if I don't agree with someone's post, many times it is thought provoking. If it's too bad we have the ignore button. Thank you all for being there. Take care, Sandra

I'll buck the trend and come back.

I've decided not to let spiteful cowardly disrespectful hypocrites push me off the board and I've been touched by all the messages I got a few weeks back.

I haven't been on here in awhile. I have found that in the last couple of months, there have been some harsh criticisms on this site. It is not difference of opinions in posts that I find offensive, I actually appreciate reading different view points..but some people are just quite cruel and judgemental. That is different than stating an opposing opinion.

I think it is so important that even though we are in terrible pain, that we still remember to be kind to others. I know how hard it can be to do that when you are feeling so low, but I think it is important to give what you would want to receive.

Sometimes (not all) I have found that people think that they can do or say anything they want because they are in grief, and that all others should just "deal with it", forgetting that we all have pain. Even those who are not in this group. Life is a challenge, everyone has pain & suffering, just in different ways.

I believe we should be kind to others, as well as to ourselves.

yes there are some people just out to cause upset and then hiding under the banner of "free speech".

even the views they espouse don't stack up with their actual behaviour so they are either massively hypocritical or just out to cause as much upset as they can for their own reasons.

From their current behaviour you do wonder how they behaved when they were still with their partners. Maybe some of their inexplicable outbursts are a product of massive guilt about what they have done in the past?

Okay - I must be missing something.

I'm admittedly new to the group, however (and there's always a however in life) I've encountered nothing but care and compassion from this group. I doubt it's due to my magnetic personality, but rather to those who are here to give each other an ear and a shoulder.

If, and when, I do encounter someone with an attitude or an agenda, I will choose to ignore them and move on.

I just don't see the need to quit the group altogether, and when I do, I won't post a scathing retort on my way out.

I found this site about 2 months into my journey. And I know it's been the most helpful thing that I could have come across. I have found so many people dealing with the same issues, the same concerns and the feelings. There were days that I really thought someone else's post had to be written by me, it was so close to what I was feeling on that day. Just knowing that I was normal - or what normal is now - helped me tremendously.

I will admit that some of the discussions were interesting to follow because there was so much conflict in them. But when the comments got personal - it went way past acceptable. No one here should be attacked because of their own personal view and it made me furious.

Some of those that left were wanting something here that we can not give them. We all are hurting and we could not make their hurt go away. Some are moving on and that's good. Others left because of what I have learned is a temper tantrum, it didn't go their way, so they are pouting. But the ones that left because of being attacked are the ones I would love to see come back. I don't think some people pay attention to the little line under this box, "In adding this comment, I ----, do promise to be nice". Their promise is worthless.

People grieve differently and maybe that is why some people react the way they do. I personally find this site helpful and knowing I can reach out to people who are suffering like me helps alot. I also found some very good friends here. I take what I need and leave the rest.